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   Posted 2/8/2012 3:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Basically I think I may be suffering from depression quite badly. I'm 14 years old and less than a year ago my Dad died which hurt me quite badly. My friends have noticed a BIG difference in my behaviour recently and I'm quite worried. I took all the tests online and I know they aren't like official diagnosis' or anything but they all told me I'm suffering from major depression. I did this one which said my major depression and cyclothymia (form of mild bipolar disorder) were extremely high and I should seek medical advice. I also think I'm suffering from insomnia which can be a symptom of depression as I cannot sleep at all at night no matter how tired I am. My brother and sister who live at the opposite end of the country from me who I only get to see a couple of times a year both suffer from depression and I know If parents or siblings suffer from depression that can increase your risks of suffering yourself. I want to go to the doctors but I feel scared and I don't know why. Please help! shakehead

Post Edited (JERICHOHOLIC) : 2/8/2012 2:18:44 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/8/2012 3:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello, Jerichoholic, and welcome to the Depression Forum,

There's no need at all for you to be frightened or concerned about seeing a psychiatrist for diagnosis and treatment of what you think might be bipolar illness or depression following your dad's death. (It could also be the natural grief following the loss of a loved one.)

These men and women in the field of psychiatry are very compassionate and will know exactly what medications to give you to help you sleep, first of all, and then to ease the depressive thinking.
One of the effects of grief may be that it throws off the chemical balance of the brain.  Any strong emotional shock is capable of doing that to a sensitive person.  Medication is available now to restore the chemical imbalance and bring your thinking back to its
routine state before you were subjected to the great stress of the loss of a close relative.

Please schedule an appointment at your earlierst convenience and feel that you are taking the first step into a healthy life ahead.

With many good wishes for your recovery.

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   Posted 2/8/2012 3:48 PM (GMT -6)   

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   Posted 2/8/2012 4:15 PM (GMT -6)   
I just inboxed my Dads old Facebook account telling him I missed him and how I wished he could reply but I knew he never would. 5 seconds later I got a reply and I totally froze. Turns out it was just my ex boyfriend messaging me and I broke down and cried, then his funeral song came on the shuffle on my iPad. I just totally fell back into that dark hole

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   Posted 2/8/2012 5:47 PM (GMT -6)   
HI Jerichoholic,

I would definately see your doctor if you can. Or talk to a school counselor. The loss of a loved one at your age has a great impact on us. I lost my grandfather (who was like my father) when I was about 11 and it really took a toll on me. I really think that if you talk to somebody soon, you will be able to get through this. You have a lot on your plate right now. Dealing with grief is hard enough, but if depression runs in your family it can be a lot harder. Having support at this time is important for you. Not only would I see a doctor if I were you, I would see a counselor too.

We can help you here too. I can direct you to some teen sites if you would like. Just let me know. I hope that you feel better soon.

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   Posted 2/9/2012 12:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Jeri, your fear of seeking help for your depression probably has a lot to do with the negative reputation depression and seeing a counselor has thanks to movies, jokes, etc. The truth is depression is really just another "illness/condition" that can benefit from treatment by a professional.

Talk to your mom/guardian about this. If you are unable to then speak to your counselor or the nurse at school. The teen years are hard enough on their own and you have the added challenge of dealing with the loss of your father. What you are feeling is very normal and understandable especially considering the circumstances. It is also quite normal to need some help and guidance to get things sorted out so please do not think you are weird or weak. You have recognized that there is a problem and that takes a lot of courage and strength. Now all you need to do is take the next step.
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   Posted 2/9/2012 2:17 AM (GMT -6)   

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I lost my father when I was 10. I would like to add a few more people you may want to talk with. As I am a softball travel team coach I have had many of the young ladies find it easier to talk to me about things. What I am getting at is if there is someone you feel you can talk to, don't hesitate. Whether it be a coach, teacher, family friend, pastor, or someone similar.
It's a tough thing you are going through now and I remember all the things that I would hear, see, or smell that would remind me and bring back the pain. It does get better with time. It's hard, but when something reminds you try to remember the good times.

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   Posted 2/10/2012 4:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, you are taking a good step here just posting on this forum, I did not try and get help until I was so distressed I could hardly function. It took me about 12 months of treatment to start feeling better. I see so much hope for you, you are young and you are looking at getting help, you know this is so important to recognise you have a problem, I didnt know there was anything wrong other than i felt sad for years, it was very distressing and total misery. Please get help, you deserve so much hapiness in life, I wish you the best.
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