Work placement confusion and depression -seeking advice

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   Posted 2/19/2012 4:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello forum world. I've not posted on one of these before, but this morning came across a few really good threads as I looked to the internet for some inspiration.

My situation is this: I've recently started a new consulting job 4 months ago. For the last 2 months this job has relocated me for a 6 month contract in a foreign country in Europe. I've been thrown into the fire a bit as the assignment is to manage a team with the client in a work area that I actually don't have any experience in. So I am learning while doing and pretending each day that I know what I'm doing, but feeling very lost and not at all confident. To top it off, I am becoming less and less sure that the type of work is what I want to be doing. I don't have much support from my actual boss at the firm who tends to talk in platitudes and I'm not sure cares much how I'm getting on personally but just needs to ensure the client stays happy.

But I am having a hard time differentiating these feeling from work from the absolute feelings of loneliness and depression that have accompanied this move. I am now only seeing my husband on weekends or every other week if I'm lucky, I don't speak the native language here and am more than a little isolated.

Yet I feel at a loss as to how to make a decision. Do I stay and fake it for the duration of my contract, hoping it gets better? Do I throw in the towel early for the best interest of the client and my personal mental health? I am also quite anxious about what comes next after that -the thought of another job search is almost terrifying.

Has anyone had a similar situation or advice to offer?

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   Posted 2/19/2012 9:47 AM (GMT -6)   
   People with depression need people and not isolation. I think for your own mental stability this choice is not for you. There will be other opportunities more advantageous to your mental and physical well being. My point is it's just not to your advantage.

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   Posted 2/19/2012 9:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there and welcome to the forum. This is a difficult situation it looks like. If you can complete the contract I would do so. Is there anyway you can get some counseling there? And yes, talk to your husband.

I think it is situational depression and when it is over you should peobably feel better. But seeing a doctor would be good advice. You are probably feeling overwhelmed from this situation. Try to take it one day at a time and do the best that you can. REmember, one day at a time....

Keep us posted as to how you are doing. There will be others to respond to you also.

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   Posted 2/19/2012 9:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the thoughts - One struggle is that the model for the work is such that I could complete in June and be then asked to go again somewhere else to a new client. So in my mind I do know that that won't work for me in the long term -for my mental health or for my relationship. But I am struggling whether to hold out for this project duration or move on with it already!

The place of limbo is the worst place to be -I am one minute rehearsing how I will hand in my notice to my boss and the next making a to do list for what needs to happen at work for the week. It is crazy making!

But agree it is mostly situational- thikning about being unemployed is giving me panic attacks though!

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