I don't feel okay

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   Posted 2/20/2012 8:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm going through so much right now. My husband cheated, we're not okay. I've had a rash on my face for the last 6 months that won't go away, it might be lupus. My biggest fear is needles, so I'm scared to death to get tested, although I have sucked it up and went to the doc. She's trying to rule out some other things first. My 6 year old has been having screaming fits lately, I can't figure out why. I've taken toys, tv, staying after school to play with friends, etc. Today, while I was trying to calmly talk to her about why she's been acting this way, I ask her what's bugging her and she looks up at me and says... "I hate you. I want a new mommy. I wish you were dead."
I spent the past 4 hours in tears, since she went to bed. I feel so lost right now, I have nobody to talk to. Nobody wants to hear it, they have their own problems.

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   Posted 2/20/2012 9:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I have a rash (eczema) on parts of my face & neck for the past two weeks. I finally figured out it is probably the dark chocolate i've been nibbling on daily, which is a new thing for me.. because the dark kind is "healthy" also it's sugar free. I have to cut that out completely for a while to know. I wish you good luck with your husband.. maybe therapy will help. I hope your daughter is okay and that things get better.

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   Posted 2/20/2012 9:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the depression forum.

Take this one day at a time. Slow down and weigh things out. Get your tests for lupus and the other things to rule them out.

Children don't mean what they say when they say that they hate you. They are just mad and most likely not getting their way. Has she heard somebody else say this? They often copy what they hear.

I think therapy would be a good thing for you right now. I am sure it feels like the world is falling apart. But it isn't. Things change in life and we have no control over it. You may end up forgiving him, you may not. But take your time to decide. Make sure it is really what you want, either way... Counseling, a good point...

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   Posted 2/21/2012 1:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Odds are pretty good that your daughter is sensing the tension in your home due to your marriage problems and doesn't know any other way to express her feelings, concerns, etc. No matter how hard you may try to hide the problems between you and your husband from her she is still going to sense that something is not right.

I don't know what you may have told her to this point but it would probably be a good idea to talk to her about the problems you and your husband are having. I don't mean tell her what he did but tell her that you and daddy? are upset right now and that you both need time to work things out and stop being mad. Reassure your daughter that no matter what you and daddy will always be her parents and will always love her.

I have a 6 year old myself and most of the time he is a very loving, very well behaved child, but whenever my wife or I have a fight or even if one of us just is having a really bad day he will start acting up big time and when we ask him what is wrong he rarely is able to come right out with it and will either totally clam up or end up saying something really mean about one or both of us. Once we "explain" things to him and reassure him about things he calms down.
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