Is there really love?

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   Posted 2/21/2012 2:33 PM (GMT -6)   
I got to talk to her on Sunday. She was cold and angry towards me. It was like she was a different person. She hates me....blame me for everything. told me that i manipulated her or used her. It so hard to believe that someone who you married...stop loving you so quickly. It so scary. Is there such a thing as love? I don't know anymore. I just know that the med...are helping me a little bit. I just don't care about anything anymore...i don't watch TV.....don't exercise...don't write. It's like all the energy of life is gone.

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   Posted 2/21/2012 2:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Sure, there's such a thing as love, Thisworld, and you'll find it one day. What you have now is not love and probably hasn't been for a long time.  In an episode, a depressed person isn't able to feel real love--oh, she may have moments of exhiliration and think that she's in love, but it doesn't last. The moods are so unstable.  And the judgment is clouded.  It's often referred to as a "fog" one is in during an episode of depression.

You're going to have to take care of yourself the way you took care of her until the pain assuages. Even then, you owe yourself a better and healthier life which you will find if you give yourself a chance and lean on a Higher Power for guidance until you are assured that you are being loved for just who you are and that the higher form of love will be an enduring and lasting one to guide you through all the trauma of trying to live with someone who is mentally ill.

She has a lot of "growing up" to do, Thisworld, and only she can do it. Nobody else can do it for her.

Take care.

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   Posted 2/21/2012 4:19 PM (GMT -6)   
This may have come on gradually and it seems impulsive to you. She may have been thinking about it and planning it for awhile now. I am sorry for what you are going through. I agree with IG, work on you. Take care of you now.

Are you going to any counseling? I highly recommend it. You will get guidance there.

Keep posting. Know that we all care about you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 2/22/2012 2:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes there is really a thing called love. It can seem elusive but it does exist.

Too many people confuse desire for love. They think that real love is suppose to always feel like the early days of a relationship where things are exciting, heady, intoxicating and then when those feelings diminish they think they no longer love.

Real love though is something much deeper. It is about wanting to build something special with someone else. It is about sharing, it is about knowing deep down that no matter how rough or bad things get you will face it together. Real love is something that is and must be cared for, nurtured and never taken for granted.
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   Posted 2/22/2012 4:19 AM (GMT -6)   
yes there is real love.

with much healing compassion, jamie


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