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   Posted 4/18/2005 3:24 PM (GMT -6)   
i am new to this and so i messed up. i posted a new forum on the HIV site about depression (not knowing what i was doing). check it out if yall dont mind and let me know what you think. thanks!!!

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   Posted 4/18/2005 5:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome moepie,

I read your post and it is a difficult situation you are in. I don't know what advice to give other than ask for an appointment with the Dr. HIPPA could prevent them from giving any personal information about your husband unless he is willing to sign a release form. I owuld ask the Dr. what is being done to ensure that your safety is being met while getting your husband the help he needs. Good luck and keep us posted.
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   Posted 4/18/2005 8:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Mopie said in her first post:

I am new to this but I figured that this would be the best place to get some feedback. My husband was diagnosed depressed almost a year ago today. He spent some time ina local mental health facility and is on medications (lexapro and seroquel). He sees his doctor every month. His problem basically started when he told me that he was having thoughts of hurting me, his wife. It scared the you know what out of him that he was having these thoughts, he couldn't control them, so he thought about ending his own life, just to get rid of these thought about me. That is when we decided he needed some outside help. Aftera year of therapy and medication, the thoughts haven't gone away. He discusses this with his doctor but all she does is increases his meds. I am really scared for my own safety!! My husband ahs necer given me any reason to believe that he would ever hurt me, but how many time have we heard of someone "snapping" and doing something crazy? I love my husband and I want him to get better. But here is the issue I am faced with now....I am thinking about leaving him. We have talked about this before and he has told me that time and time again, if i am unhappy, then he will let me go. I am thinking this because I am afraid for my life. I am not running out on him, I just think that he needs to get well first so we can work on our marriage later. I am not approaching this as a divorce, just a separation. I am willing to go to counseling with him, and I support him in every way. I just think that this is what it has finally come to. ??????

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   Posted 4/18/2005 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome Moepie,

Wow . . . you really do have a dilema. I have no training, just life experience. If you feel that your life is in possible danger than you need to act on that. Have you asked your husband or the mental health professional if you could sit in on some visits (for part of the time) or visit seperately from your husband in addition to his visits?? Like Randy told you, I don't think they can divulge personal information, but I believe there is some legal responsiblity if the patient confides that they want to cause harm to someone. This may vary from State to State (if you are in the US). The fact that the doctor increases hubby's meds each time may be because it is extremely hard on your body to start out at high doses of some drugs. . . but only the doctor could tell you exactly what his/her intentions are. Keep asking questions and do act on your gut feeling that you may be in harm's way. Better to be safe than sorry.

Do keep us posted. You are in my prayers Moepie, if that's ok with you.

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