I read your post and it is a difficult situation you are in. I don't know what advice to give other than ask for an appointment with the Dr. HIPPA could prevent them from giving any personal information about your husband unless he is willing to sign a release form. I owuld ask the Dr. what is being done to ensure that your safety is being met while getting your husband the help he needs. Good luck and keep us posted.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.