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LNichole87
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   Posted 2/27/2012 5:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Not doing too good today. I had a great weekend, even went to my mom's and the visit went well. Ive had some disagreements with the friends I live with and things are rocky right now. Im trying to act rationallyt and not take things out of context or too personal but its hard. I want to run right now. Very manic-depressive tonight. Stupid thoughts entering my head only to be stopped by the thought of having to do a chain analysis for it later (which I guess the first one did its job...) Im supposed to be trying to use wise mind that I learned about in my DBT group but definately stuck in the emotional mind right now.
My friend that Im staying with told me (since I do nanny work for them) that if I need time for me to take it so I did last week after work and then I took the weekend off. She got upset at me because she thought I was texting her and her husband (who are both friends/family to me) unnecessarily. So this weekend I didnt text. I told both of them that I would not be home for the weekend which is of course just curtiousy (sp?) after that I didnt send anything unless they asked me. She of course didnt even reply to it so why, if she complained about me texting unnecessarily, would I text her if she didnt ask/say anything??? (and please tell me if Im wrong on any of this)
Her husband text and asked where I was going Friday and said I was just going to take care of things, Last night he texted me and asked when I would be home so I told him by either 7am or noon today but most likely by 7am to get their son to take him to school (which I transport him everyday) Nothing was said about him not going to school or anything so I figured I didnt need to say anything to her when I picked him up because she was upstairs asleep.
Later in the morning she didnt text me but my supervisor to ask if he was at school (I work in his classroom at school too) She then texted me later on that "I will be taking and getting my son to school everyday starting tom." and then "You didnt have to do it this morning. i was gonna keep him home. Starting tom. ill take care of him going back and forth to school"
He didnt seem sick and I wasnt told anything different so how would I know that today's plan was to change??? I sent back "oook did i do something wrong? I told her husband I'd be home around 7-8am to get T (her son) for school & wasnt told he was going to stay home" Never did hear back from her and she sent her husband to come pick her son up from school, knowing that I was there but she told Joe that she didnt know if I was going to be there to take him home. BOTH of them shouldve known I would be there to take him home because I even told Joe this morning while I was driving home (my mom lives a few hours away from me) that I was on my way. Im sooooooooooooo tired of the BS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im ready to move out but I think if I did I would lose the nursing position I have with taking care of her son and would probably lose both of them as friends or at least strain the relationship big time. I want to run so bad......

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   Posted 2/27/2012 6:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Sounds like a misunderstanding to me, that will most likely blow over. I would have an earnest talk with the both of them. Lay things out on the table so to speak so that there aren't any other misunderstandings. I don't think being honest should hurt your friendship. Then if you still feel you should move out, do so. But talk about it first.

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   Posted 2/29/2012 4:51 AM (GMT -6)   
just checking in to see how you are. with healing compassion, jamie
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER,

RAPID CYCLING BI-POLAR DISORDER

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

LNichole87
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   Posted 3/4/2012 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
doing a little better. Its been almost 3 weeks of the silent treatment against me which is hard to handle. I told her husband that I need her to answer my texts about whether or not she wanted me to continue living at the house and if she wants me to continue doing the nursing/nanny for her kids. She wouldnt answer me but would talk to him. At that point I got "yes and yes" nothing more Im not sure how much longer I can live with this. I have another apt that is open now but I dont want to run away from my problems either...
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getting by
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   Posted 3/4/2012 12:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Sometimes getting out of a messed up situation isn't really running away. Maybe it is time for you to get your own place and have privacy and a life of your own. So don't think of it as running away. It sounds like she is making you uncomfortable. That is no way to live. I would think about the apartment and another job. You need something that isn't so wrapped up in a friendship. Who knows, this might save the friendship.

Think about it and let us know what you are going to do.

Hugs, Karen
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LNichole87
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   Posted 3/12/2012 3:22 PM (GMT -6)   
It is what it is... is no more! Finally made the decision to go ahead and move out and will move my stuff today. Unfortunately, at least for now, I did get a 'no' on continuing the nursing job which hurts a lot. Im hoping that changes after she cools down.. whenever that will be. It seems I cant do anything right according to her. Yesterday I was unable to come in the house through the correct door.. For some reason the garage door is supposed to be off limits at least to me. It seems like its down to just nitpicking anymore soooooooooooo tired of it! I was an emotional wreck yesterday bouncing between being totally pissed off and just sobbing... didnt get to sleep until about 2am last night I was so upset that my muscles seemed like they were on fire, I constantly had to move to be comfortable.
Major Depressive disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder, Bipolar disorder, PTSD, OCD, Bulimia

Celexa, Abilify, Zolpidem, Hydroxyzine

getting by
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   Posted 3/12/2012 4:38 PM (GMT -6)   
I am happy for you actually. You didnt need this anymore. Enough is enough. And you shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable at your job. Or in any situation. It sounds like she has problems and wants to make them yours. I think it is best to walk away.

You will get though this. Take it one day at a time.

Hugs Karen
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   Posted 3/12/2012 11:34 PM (GMT -6)   
sending many healing thoughts your way, jamie
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER,

RAPID CYCLING BI-POLAR DISORDER

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.
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