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   Posted 2/27/2012 10:42 PM (GMT -6)   
I have been on disability from work for almost 7 months now. I was recently offered a severence package that I can't turn down. Since then, I feel like a major weight has been lifted off my sholders, having been the bread winner in my family for 10+ years, I felt like I was a burden to my spouse and children while I was on disability leave and only collecting a portion of my salary.

In the few weeks since I've accepted my severance agreement, I feel like I've fallen in. Love with my husband all over again. I notice little things, like a wink he gives me when I'm talking to someone else, or a smile from across the room. I've always loved this man, but for a long time I couldn't explain why, I almost felt like it was part of the motions of life. Now that I no longer have to worry about money or insurance, at least for a few months, I feel a huge weight lifted and I realize, I'm in love. I probably always have been, but work, depression, anxiety always got in the way of the real reason for that love. It wasn't an obligation, or just going with the motions. I truly love him, am attracted to him and his smile across the room. Problem is....

I don't know how to tell him. I've always said "I love you" at the end of a conversation, but I don't know how to tell him or show him now that I really really do love him. How can you explain to someone that you thought you probably loved them all this time but now you know for sure you do? Seems almost painful for him. Any thoughts / advice?

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   Posted 2/28/2012 12:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Maybe you could start by telling him thank you for being your husband and for being there for you. Tell him how much you appreciate him and that you love him even more than the day you said "I do".

If you are better at writing than saying then sit down and write him a letter telling him all of this. Contrary to popular belief men do like getting love letters.
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   Posted 2/28/2012 12:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Jim! What a great idea! I never had any problem writing the "I'm not happy letter, we need to change something" in the beginning of our relationship. I got my point across then, but never considered writing a love letter to get my point across now! Thank you!
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   Posted 2/28/2012 8:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jenni,

I agree, write a letter or get him a card and write in it. He will love it. I don't tell my husband enough either, but I love him so much. I often think about a card or note to tell him.

I hope you continue to be happy. I love happy posts.

Take care Jenni, Keep posting...

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