My husband is on Zoloft to help him deal with depression and stress from a family practitioner. We have been going to marriage counseling, separated for two weeks and he is trying to make things better. I am continuing to walk on eggshells and try to have happy home for my daughter and be supportive to my husband.
At last night’s marriage counseling, he said he was not depressed and I am still to blame for our issues. He got mad and walked out and drove away after 20 min. I stayed for the duration of the hour and the counselor told me that he was codependent to me. She said that is why he gets resentful if I work late; spend time with my family, or friends. She believes that the depression and codependency go together and feels like he would benefit from seeing his own counselor and a male counselor.
When I got home my husband acted like nothing happened. I told him that I cannot continue to live like this. He is not supportive to me, lashes out in anger at me, and continues to blame all our issues on me. This is so unhealthy. I love him and want to make it work......I just do not know if I can salvage this.
I thought we were making a breakthrough and was excited about it, but to hear him tell the marriage counselor all the same things he always has, makes me realize that nothing has changed....he has just shoved everything even deeper down. After our discussion last night, he told me that if I went out with my friends or family again and did get home until after 10pm he was done with our marriage. Really?
I feel so devastated, Like a caged canary in a mine shaft.....