Update and one month since quitting smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol

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   Posted 3/7/2012 11:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone. hope all is well.

I hadn't been on here in so long and then a couple days ago I said, I miss healingwell!

Anyways, it's been a little over three years since I was hospitalized for major depressive disorder and I am doing good. I'm in college and I have been getting really good grades (up until now!).

College has been fun, however, my relationship with my on-again off-again boyfriend has gotten a little shaky.

On our "off" times, I impulsively would drink with friends and get so drunk that I would blackout. During these blackouts I would somehow have sexual encounters with men other than my on-again off-again boyfriend.

He would find out and get furious and then it would happen again and again....

Long story short, it has happened 3 times since our first "break up" which was a year ago this month!

I have come a long way... trying my best to go out with friends and drink a little bit but it never worked out. I would end up passing out somewhere, blacking out or getting sick.

SO about a month ago I quit drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes completely. It has been 1 month and I am so proud of myself! It is very hard being in college and all but I feel better about myself and my relationship with my on-again off-again boyfriend is slowing getting better. Now I just have to stay clean and sober and find other things to do! hah

Just wanted to share this with everyone. Hope you are all doing well too.

take care,

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   Posted 3/8/2012 6:50 AM (GMT -6)   

Thank you for sharing this. I am so proud of you.

Often you will notice your friends change when you stop drinking. They did for me. I wasn't out buying beer all the time and people quit coming around. But I made new friends that didn't drink so that worked out.

It is hard to quit two things at a time. Kudos for stopping smoking too. You must feel so much better now. I am so happy for you.

Keep posting. Thanks for coming back.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 3/8/2012 12:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Congratulations on making a wonderful decision to remove alcohol from your life. Remember you are a unique and wonderful person and believe in yourself. 

As adults we often believe we must continually justify our place in the world, that we have to somehow prove to other people that we are, extremely self-confident and worthy of their esteem.   We will spend excessive amounts of time feeling anxious and afraid that we won’t meet other people expectation and we lose sight of the basic fact that we are usually all right just as we are, in spite of the fact that we are not perfect.

You have recognized what is not good for you and that takes tremendous willpower.  Keep on putting one foot  in front of the other.  If things get tough or you are tempted to go back to the drinking remember you don't need the alcohol, it will not make your problems or fears go away but instead it may cause you to make bad choices.    After the fact you will feel worse so talk yourself out of picking up that can or bottle. 

Please be very proud of yourself and know that we are here to support you.



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   Posted 3/9/2012 3:07 AM (GMT -6)   
am proud of ya, jamie.


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