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justme1966
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   Posted 3/16/2012 11:29 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm new and don't know what I am doing. I have been feeling depressed for a long time. I keep thinking it will change but it doesn't. It has been more then a year. I feel invisible.
I know I have to make the change. When I try to go out of my comfort zone and talk, I don't  know how to carry on a conversation. I wasn't always that way. I'm the one who calls people to see how they are doing, but seems like no one cares to find out how I am EVER.
I have a daughter going to college soon. The college she likes is 4 hours away. That means I will be more alone. I know I have her now, but she is the typical teenanger. That has a very busy life that I am glad for so she doesn't end up like me.

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   Posted 3/16/2012 12:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Since you have been feeling this way for quite a while now things probably are not going to change on their own. Counseling and/or medication may be needed to get you moving in the right direction.

A couple of good places to start is your family doctor and/or your local mental health center.

Don't be embarrassed about talking with the professionals about what is going on, how you are feeling. No one is going to think you are crazy. The only "crazy" part is allowing it to continue when help is right there.
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taraturtle
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   Posted 3/16/2012 12:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there!

Welcome to the forum.

Reading this post, I could relate a lot to the things you were saying. Have you ever tried counselling, or even talking to a close friend or someone about how you are feeling? I really do recommend it as it can help you feel less alone. One thing to remember is that people do care, and things will get better. I know it may not seem that way, but one day you will be glad that you kept strong and pulled through this dark time. That being said, having someone to talk to makes that process a lot easier! Even if you don't feel you can talk to anyone in real life, us here in the forum are always willing to give advice and listen!

justme1966
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   Posted 3/16/2012 12:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, yes I have tried medication for along time. I haven't found a Dr that can tell me much more then I know. That I have to make a change.
I don't really have anyone to talk to thats why I came here.
I do work from my home, I see people a little thro the day. But is basically Hello. No real talk. I do Child care and am fine with kids. They are young so there is no real conversation there.
I've lost my mom and a sister at a young age, so people know me as someone is tough and can handle alot. I guess is true but doesn't mean you don't need someone somtimes.
I was married, that didn't work out which is fine. But since I was with him at a young age. I missed out being around people and friends for a long time.
I think it bothers me the most that if I didn't make the effort, I am sure no one would ever if call to see if I was ok or anything. I have family near by and they are the same way. We are not fighting they just dont seem to care either

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   Posted 3/16/2012 1:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Justme1966,

I honestly don't think it is because people don't care. I think that it is just that they are busy living their lives. I think that they genuinely care about you though. Maybe you aren't reaching out in a way that they can recognize. So don't give up on your friends. Sometimes it just doesn't sink in when we are asking for help.

I think you need a psycholigist or counseling. It really helps. Or a good social worker. It gives us direction and options in our lives. So if you are in counseling and it isn't helping, talk to somebody different. And for your medicaitons, you may need an adjustment or a change. I would see a psychiatrist for that if that is possible.

Coming here really helps. We all care about eachother. And we understand eachother too. When a person doesn't suffer feom depression, I don't think that they "get it". But we all know how you feel. So I think coming here could be helpful for you.

I hope that you are having a good day.

Take care, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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justme1966
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   Posted 3/16/2012 3:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Karen. I agree people either don't understand or are maybe scared to say they feel the same way.

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   Posted 3/16/2012 4:49 PM (GMT -6)   
That could be very true. I don't think anybody likes to admit that they have depression. Ignoring it can make it seem like it isn't there. But it is better to tackle it head on and get past it. The best way we can anyways. It is a gradual process and can be painful or painless actually. Once you begin the healing journey, you are in for a lot of changes which can be subtle or can be dynamic. But that is all in how your journey goes. I think coming here is a first and huge step. One you wont regret.

I hope that you have a good evening.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 3/18/2012 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
hi justme,

just a few thoughts about the dynamics of your relationships with friends and family. often people get used to a certain dynamic - e.g., your friend or family member has always related to you as a person who doesn't need help. so they don't offer it.

often all that is needed is a little honesty and communication - telling them you DO need help. sometimes they are more than willing to change the dynamic, sometimes not, but if you continue to seek people willing to help, i think you will find them.

just my thoughts...
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