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   Posted 3/19/2012 8:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I am an Iraq veteran who returned from overseas 7 years ago.  I went through a divorce the first week I was back in because my wife had been unfaithful.  That was 7 years ago and I still feel the effects today.  I started having panic attacks and anxiety and was put on Klonopin by the VA.  For 5 years, I was trying to lead as normal a life as I could.  Dating, playing music, hanging with friends, but I had this disease looming over my head.  When the Klonopin stopped working, I turned to a drug for 2 years and switched from Klonopin to Xanax.  I got off the drug cold turkey, but kept taking the xanax.  Work started becoming unmanagable and life was starting to kick my butt.  I thought it had something to do with my wife, so I started talking about leaving. 
It all came to a head one day when I realized I couldn't keep living this way and drove around desperatly searching for some type of treatment center to fix me.  Well, the first one in the phonebook happened to be a addiction rehab, so I thought, maybe it's the xanax and checked myself in.
They labeled me with bipolar disorder even though I didn't believe it.  I started taking bipolar medications and started feeling unhealthy.  So I found a new doctor once I got out, and they took me off bipolar meds and put me on Effexor XR. 
Well, getting off the bipolar meds gave me withdrawals so bad I ended up in the ER.  That lasted for 2 solid weeks and now the Effexor is supposed to be kicking in after a little over a month, but I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.  Although, my marriage is great now, I will probably be laid off of work if I don't start producing and I feel as though I can't get off the couch to do anything.
When will I feel normal?  When will this self pity and depression stop?  It feels absolutely hopeless and I am sad.

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 3/20/2012 6:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey BMan
Welcome to our forum and thank you for your service..you are amazing guys (and women).

Anti-depressants can take up to 6-8 weeks to take effect. BUT we normally feel a little something before then. You may need an increase or different med. That is the aggravating thing with these meds...they don't give us immediate relief like a xanax or pain pill...so many of us have tried many drugs before finding something that works. Please hang in there and if you see no improvement in 2 weeks, get to docs and change up.

Xanax can really exacerbate depression, as will alcohol so you did well getting off. Are you seeing a counselor? It can really help the meds work...

Have to go get my daughter up. Honestly, if it wasn't for her, I'm not sure I'd get out of bed either.

Hang in there and go see doc in 2 weeks if no improvement

Please keep us posted

"We never realize how strong we are, until being strong is the only thing left"
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   Posted 3/20/2012 8:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi BMan33,

Welcome to the forum. I am glad that you have joined us. You will find we are a really caring group of members.

You may need more effexor. What mg are you on? I took 375mg of effexor for years. Recently switched to Pristiq. It is a close cousin to effexor. It works well for me. I only have to take one pill a day of that as apposed to five caps of effexor at different times of the day.

Give effexor a chance. As Mags said it can take up to eight weeks to reach it's full potential. And whatever you do, do not stop it cold turkey. Get help from your doc to taper off. It is a hard one to come off of. I hope that you give it a chance. If you aren't feeling good, contact your doc for an adjustment.

Keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.

Have a great day!!!

Hugs, Karen
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia

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