My wife is depressed...HORRIBLY DEPRESSED! IM SO CONFUSED! She has been struggling with depression for a few years. Lately it has gotten worse! I messed up a few months ago as I was sad because of a lost loved one. I didn't cheat on her, but looked at another woman. She caught me and that was it. Her depression spiraled. It was bad before...same arguments over everything I do wrong. I cook, I clean, I wash clothes (if she washes them they don't get folded) So ill fold if she can manage to wash. I get the kids ready in the morning, i do their homework with them. It's a constant cycle. That hasn't changed. We are in a position where we are always around people, as a matter of fact, her interaction with people is a big part of my job...and she is not interacting at all. So that hurts me there. My daughter is struggling in school because I sometimes dont get home until a little later and she hasn't done ANY of her homework because my wife wont do it with her. (she will sometimes, but when we argue she makes it a point to talk about how she does her homework, thats wrong, it's a rare occasion). We have a 2 year old at home, who is stuck in her dark room ALL DAY LONG watching TV, he isn't potty trained yet and she sleeps through most of the day. Sometimes Im scared that something bad is going to happen because she is sleeping. I will call her during the day, and she is sleeping...yet in our arguments, she yells at me because of her "HARD WORK" at home taking care of our kid!!!! But all she does is sleep, and feed him breakfast and lunch. Our dog is in the crate all day except for when she will walk him in the morning (so she says) because it seems he is there all day long. She takes her anger out on me and the kids. She will say one thing and yell at us if we do it wrong. She yelled at me for CLEANING OUR ROOM AND TOUCHING HER CLOTHES, YET, SHE WON'T LIFT A FINGER TO CLEAN THE ROOM. She yells at me if I leave socks in the living room yet, IM THE ONE THAT CLEANS THAT LIVING ROOM EVERYDAY, so if i come home and leave them there...i should be able to since im cleaning the thing. She will nitpick at everything I do..I can't tell her a story without there being some form of negative comment. She thinks EVERYONE hates her, she wants people to go after her..if someone doesn't say something to her automatically they are talking about her or have been coerced by someone to hate her. Again, this doesn't happen to everyone, but to most people. She thinks other girls have crushes on me when they clearly don't and unfortunately her way of thinking has affected my oldest daughter. This negative outlook on things. Oh, and she is ALLOWED to have days to herself, like go to the beach...yet when I ask to go fishing, its like pulling hair. I haven't been out and done something for myself in over 8mos. She feels that MY JOB IS ENOUGH BECAUSE IM NOT AROUND THE KIDS AND IM ALONE HERE AT WORK. WHAT?!!! This is a rant...but I NEED ADVICE!