I think I'm severely depressed. Where to go from here?

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Date Joined Mar 2012
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   Posted 4/3/2012 1:00 PM (GMT -6)   
In 2010, I was diagnosed with Panic Disorder and depression. I was with a man who was verbally and physically abusive, turning my once-happy life into a downward spiral of anxiety and depression. I finally worked up the courage to separate from him, and my life gradually began to blossom again.

Then, at the beginning of this year I met another man. After a couple of months into our relationship, I realized that I was extremely happy. He was very kind, intelligent, mature, and affectionate. The thing is, it was a long-distance relationship but I knew that it was working well and growing.

Friday the 23rd of March, he finally drove the 7 hours to come see me. We had a wonderful evening but the next day, I noticed a personality change. He told me that he had a phone call with his ex-girlfriend (she's very spiteful and "not all there") and she said she was pregnant. She's lied about this a few times in the past, but he decided to leave early to go home to find out the truth (since there is that chance). Well, for over a week, we have barely communicated at all. We talked on the phone on Saturday, and he told me that he's still awaiting to find out answers from this woman, but for right now he believes that we both should be mature and put our feelings at a standstill until this situation blows over.

For a week, I've been feeling so depressed over all of this. I completely understand his logic, but it's so hard to not be able to talk to him as much as we did before. A couple times, I went a little bit "crazy" and called him approx. 12 times in a row, just so I could hear his voice. But, I feel guilty, because I realize the situation that he's in is stressful for him. I feel so afraid that we'll never be able to get over this. Honestly, what should I do at this point? I'm desperate. Because my feelings for him are so strong, I feel as if I've completely departed from reality and, well, lost. I haven't been able to think straight since he told me all of this. So, what should I do?

Thanks in advance.

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Date Joined Apr 2012
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   Posted 4/3/2012 2:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Darling in my opinion you just need to calm down and be patient.. things will settle as hard as they might seem just set a time lets say a month and let him solve his issues. to me it sound he is having something to do with his ex g.f. and if it is like that you migh as well speak to him and ask him what is really going on as strong as your feelings are you can not let them take over you. you have to be strong for yourself and first of all love yourself unconditionally. there is plenty of fish out there honey, i hope this helps.

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   Posted 4/3/2012 5:43 PM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like your depression could be situational. I think when this is over you will feel better. The best thing you can do is be paitent and take it one day at a time. I hope that his ex isn't pregnant as that is a life long ordeal.

Take care, and I hope that everything works out for you.

Hugs, Karen
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