Beaten down by compounded worry

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ExProud
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   Posted 4/5/2012 7:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Every few years I find myself helplessly stuck - always starts with elevated work/life stress. Once trapped I immerse myself in self help books and try some of the techniques, also take prescribed meds.
 
The worst part of it now is that my current work situation is causing me constant worry and panic. I didn't exactly love my job before, but I got by OK. But now, because I'm in this weakened state (depressed) - every little problem, every new task, every setback just feel like a nightmare. The average workday brings on several events where I get that "OMG, this is the last straw, I can't do this. . " feeling. And it seems like I'm in a constant cycle of 1) try to justify quiting 2) realize that's not a reasonable option 3) go back to struggling to make the most of it again. I often find myself wishing for a simple, low-paying, mindless job, but I also realize that I would likely regret making that type of decision when I begin to feel like myself again. But right now I just so much wish there was some way to escape and still be OK.
 
So making a career decision, or any major decision is a bad idea right now. It seems the sensible thing to do is to push forword and hang in there. But at the same time, the work situation was probably the cause of my unhappiness and it is probably prolonging it. I know there are many people who would read this and say "you should be glad you have a job" and I completely understand that, and realize that being unemployed nowadays could turn out to cause me even more worry.
 
The biggest part of my problem is that I worry too much, especially in my current condition. I spend too much time looking for worry and always find it and then spend too much time dwelling in it. I worry about failure and what people think of me way more than I should. I try to tell myself that I should just do the best I can and if I still fail I have to accept that I'm less than perfect, etc. Instances of failure down the road do seem very likely, so guess I have to find a way to absorb whatever the consequences turn out to be.
 
Another problem is letting go of my work frustration when I'm away from work. I let it bother me evenings and weekends, so I never really get a break from it and it wears me down. I am hoping that I can somehow find peace and simply accept things the way things are. i want to get back to enjoying my life.
 
 
 

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   Posted 4/5/2012 11:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Self help books can be a good thing, but they can also cause a person to miss the "cure" by advocating something that really does not fit the situation.

The right therapist or psychologist may be able to help you better understand why you go through these cycles and also help you develop skills to handle things better during the bad times and the good times as well.
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   Posted 4/6/2012 6:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Learning to live in the now could help you. You stop accessing your situation so much. Practice that. And if you don't understand it, get a book on living in the moment. It keeps your mind from wandering. And it keeps you from thinking about your job when you are away from it. YOu are letting your job consume you and that isn't good. Yes, you are lucky to have a job right now. They are few and far between, but there are coping skills you can learn to make it less stressfull for you. Do this and make yourself happy. Being that you kind of like your job makes it easier for you. Learn not to obsess over it. When you leave work, leave it completely. Don't dwell on it. Make it two seperate lives at work and not at work. You can do this. Get a book if you need to about living in the moment. It is such a good thing. It frees you.

Hugs, Karen...

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ExProud
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   Posted 4/6/2012 7:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen, I will follow up on that advice. I've known for a while some of those are things I need to improve on, some of it I'm working on but it takes time and I guess I have to be patient. The other thing is being stuck in depression compounds the worry and the worry compounds the depression, such a cruel combination!
 
Anyway thank you so much for being here and caring about my problems. If you have any specific recomendations on learning to "live in the now" I would love to hear them. 

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   Posted 4/6/2012 8:51 AM (GMT -6)   
I found one book on it.
 
 
There is another book called "feeling good" by Dr. David Burns that you can get on amazon for about 6.00.  But I think that the other book that I gave you the link to would be a good one.  Maybe you can try them both.
 
It really helps.  Since I got fibromyalgia, I have had to live in the moment and take life one day at a time.  But I see it has freed my mind.  So it kind of is a good thing.  It stops you from dwelling on the past or the future.  I think this would really help you.  Especially where your job is concerned.
 
I Hope that this helps.
 
Hugs, Karen
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ExProud
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   Posted 4/6/2012 9:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much for the suggestion, I have it on my reader and will begin reading it today.
 
God bless you for caring Karen, I will be praying for you!

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   Posted 4/6/2012 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for the prayers. I hope that you continue to post and let us know how you are doing.

Have a wonderful day. Let me know how the book is.

Hugs, Karen
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