I hope I'm not in the wrong spot. I just don’t know where to turn and I need advice. I'm sorry if this post seems insensitive or is not welcomed here.
My boyfriend recently told me he is severely depressed and not sure he wants to be with me anymore. I honestly had no idea it was this bad. I've know for a while he was depressed and having problems, but really didn't know he was headed in this direction. He told me he just wants to be alone to work this out on his own, which I feel is a terrible idea, he needs support. (ok I'm scared of him leaving me for good but I also want to be there to support him) Things were really good between us until about 2 months ago, which is when I think his depression really set in for him. I just need some advice on what is normal for someone dealing with depression, I've been reading a lot about how I can help him and what I should do but I have some specific questions.
1. He has been pulling away physically from me for about a month and I can be patient for him to feel better if I need to. But I'm wondering if I should just continue to be affectionate to him, small things like touching him when I walk by or touching his leg when we are sitting on the couch. I don't want him to think I'm pulling away from him because of this, but I don't want him to feel uncomfortable.
2. He will go days with out touching me (we still have a pretty good communications going) but then sometimes at night it’s like he needs to be with me. But honestly it makes me feel like a cheap *****, there really is no affection with it. I don't want to turn him down and make him think I'm pulling away. Honestly I don't know how to deal with anything right now. Is this normal behavior for depression?
3. Also when he says he just wants to move out and be alone, how is the best way to deal. I don't want to beg him to stay or cry because I think it makes it worse for him. But I don't want to just give up on him. This is the man I was planning to spend the rest of my life with so I'm really looking for the best way I can help him and stay strong for him. Any advice on how to proceed with him would be appreciated. Thank you,