Welcome tho the depression forum.
I really think counseling could help you. Maybe there your father is right. If his emotional abuse is still hurting you, you need some tools to work with. And a counselor can help you with that. Teach you how to cope with this. You are old enough to seek the help you need. Know that it is hard to go it alone. And with the help from counsleing, you will get stronger.
If he flips out because you don't call, so be it. That is his problem, not yours. Unless you are being irresponsible by not calling. But if he gets upset, let him. Just don't let it effect how you feel.
Keep trying, and keep posting.
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies