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FinalNirvana
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Joined : Sep 2004
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Posted 4/25/2005 10:48 PM (GMT -7)
Somebody I don't even really know emailed me and called me all sorts of awful things tonight. It upset me more than I want to admit. I feel like such a bad person right now. I think I give the impression of being conceited and rude when really I don't like who I am at all. Eh. I'm also having nightmares a lot. I slept all day today and I kept on waking up shaking from bad dreams. I never used to have nightmares...

Anyway, thanks for listening.

I hope you guys are well.

 

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Oldtimer
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Posted 4/26/2005 6:03 AM (GMT -7)

If you don't know the person, why do you feel like a bad person? You might want to stop and think that perhaps they are the bad person. Getting mad I understand. I know I would. Feeling like a bad person... nope.

It's hard enough sometimes listening to people who know us. I hope you stop listening to people who don't know you.

Ed

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AlwaysRosie
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Posted 4/26/2005 7:23 AM (GMT -7)
Thanks Ed . . . good thought.

FinalNirvana . . . I was once told a picture story about life. The story teller likened life to a trip through the grocery store. If I go into the grocery store and select bananas and pears (because that's what I like to eat) and another shopper comes by and selects apples and peaches . . . that's ok. But when the other person who likes apples and peaches starts condemning my bananas . . . well that is just THEIR opinion. It doesn't make bananas a bad choice.

That analagy has helped me ignore ignorant comments from ignorant people. I sometimes pretend that I have an 'emotional umbrella'. I take out the umbrella when I am trying to protect myself from insensitive or ignorant people. It works very well for me.

Sorry about the night-mares. That is disturbing. I have dealt with occassional boughts with bad dreams as well . . . I'm greatful for every good night's sleep that I have.

Blessings!
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Having2LeftFeet
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Posted 4/26/2005 9:19 AM (GMT -7)
nono  Rosie hit the nail right on the head. Great story Rosie. She is 100% correct. If you don't know who this person is or what site they are from or even if you visited the site and said something that upset someone for them to be so critical, ferget about it! They are not important. They are just looking for someone to pick on and it so happened that you came up with the short straw so to speak. Stay away and visit positive sites like this one. Some sites are owned by individules, and the form a clique and treat others like aliens. Then, they shouldn't even have a site, however, humans make stupid mistakes. That's what makes us humans.  

So, the moral of this subject is to "Kick the dust from your heals and leave that place". Find another home. After all, no one is perfect even if they profess to be. People who are critical usualy feel like a failure or have no self-esteem and don't like others who give good advice cause it's their turf you're invading. See my point?

 

"Lefty"   

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FinalNirvana
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Posted 4/26/2005 1:36 PM (GMT -7)
Thanks guys. That really gave me some perspective. And I loved the story Rosie. :)
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AlwaysRosie
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Posted 4/26/2005 1:40 PM (GMT -7)
Glad we could help!!! I hope you'll feel free to post. We'd love to stay in touch. "The more the merrier." I find this forum to be a great diversion from every day 'stuff'. . . and if you are thinking of a question . . . there are lots more thinking the same thing and unable to post yet. You'll be helping them out too.

Blessings!
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Jo A223
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Posted 4/26/2005 3:23 PM (GMT -7)
To all, Great advice from all!!!!Sounds like whoever  the person was , was needing someone to 'unload on' and you just happened to be the unlucky recipient, Final....(unkind people are equal opportunity abusers, I have found!haha)let it roll off your back, and as someone suggested come here for support.This site is great and full of caring supporters.We have no need for 'cliques'...left THAT behind in junior high and high school!haha..take care...
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CheerDad
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Posted 4/26/2005 4:03 PM (GMT -7)
I have spent too much of my life caring what others thought about me and have missed out on some memorable times because of "what would other think". Don't let some other person's own inability to be tolerant change your perspective on yourself. If you look in you and see things that you would like to change, no day is better than today to start. If you look inside and say "hey I like this person" then recognize that and not worry about someone else.
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