How do you get family/friends to understand?

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C@mren
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   Posted 4/24/2012 7:25 PM (GMT -6)   
One thing that i've been really struggling with during my depression is how i am constantly told "Just be happy, Just relax, Just quit" Its really hard because I want to be those things but i can't explain nor show how it is to be depressed. I guess I just feel alone like my family not understanding and if I try to voice out to others, I will be judged and looked down on. My main thing is that I feel ashamed to have depression, like it makes me less of a person.

Chartreux
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   Posted 4/24/2012 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   
This is common with any long term ailments, some people just
don't get it...but we understand here and know depression can create really
bad days...but if you stick with counseling and medicines you
can learn to cope...ask your counselor how to handle these situations
so you can tactiful deal with these people better...and your not worth less
as a person and don't let them make you feel that way cause then they win,
you can control how much time you spend with these people, but when they
think they are getting to you that's when you need to move away from them and
get out of that situation...don't let them dictate how you feel, or how you should feel...
your a very worthy person...seek out counseling to get better ideas on how to cope...
many many well wishes to you and do keep us posted as we do care...
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C@mren
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   Posted 4/24/2012 9:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Chartreux,
Thank you for the kind response. I currently am not in counseling. I have seen two therapists and they just weren't very good at what they did as they were interns. So i kind of gave up on the whole counseling and plus don't have the money. I am on two different medication and those work some days and some days they don't. And its not like the people make me feel less of a person, its my own guilt that I have.

Chartreux
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   Posted 4/25/2012 11:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Maybe save up a little money each week so at the end of the Month you can see a counselor, there are also some free clinics
getting by, knows more about those...maybe see if switching to another medicines might help as well, so
your pcp (Primary care physician) could handle that part for you, when you can save some money...
and it can be hard to shake that guilty feeling, but you do have to remember that you are a worthy person,
and you do have value and self worth...maybe start a journal...and write down one good thing each day, no matter
how small you might think it is...everything is important even small things...
Hope this helps...
many well wishes
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Jim1969
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   Posted 4/25/2012 11:49 AM (GMT -6)   
If you live in the USA most if not all state run mental health clinics offer counseling on a sliding income based fee. These fees usually are not tied in with medicaid income restrictions so even though you do not qualify for medicaid may still qualify for free or reduced cost counseling.

In addition you can also check with local hospitals and if the have psychologists or psychiatrist who see people out paitent and are employed by that hospital you may qualify for charitable care based on your income.

As far as explaining to people about depression you can try telling them that chronic depression is like any other chronic health issue. It can be treated but you can't just stop having it or wishing it away any more than a diabetic can wish away their diabetes or someone with high blood pressure can simply wish that away.
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