I haven't been on the HW site for a long time but I now find myself needing some good advice.
I currently have my daughter and her husband and my darling little 14 month old grandaughter (my only grandchild so far) visiting my husband and myself, from Sweden. My daughter has been over there for 13 years now and although I have accepted that that is now where she calls home, it doesn't stop me wishing that they would moved back to Australia soon.
Today I kind of dumped myself in it big time by asking them had they thought about if anything happened to both of them who would look after their daughter (who I must say I have grown so attached to more than ever since she has been in my house). Their first response was his mother would get her to which my response was that she is too old as she is already 70. Then they said his father who lives in Poland would then be next in line and again I said he is definitely too old at 75. Then their next response was one of his three sisters would take her. I couldn't help it, but the tears welled up in my eyes and I said tearfully "What about your father and I?" to which my daughter said that we are too far away and will probably be too old as well. I am 58 and my husband is 63.
I know this is all hypothetical, but why did it hurt me so bad, I haven't stopped crying all day both inside and mostly in secret. I know I left myself wide open for a blow below the belt and I sure got it.
Does anybody else know or can you understand how I am feeling?