Lost my job and feeling very blue

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couchtater
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   Posted 5/8/2012 9:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Background:
I'm a teacher who was just laid off due to budget cuts. I had been with the same little school for 13 years. Friday after work my boss called me into his office and told me the school was merging with another school and I had no position in the new school. shocked
I left the school in tears. I've sobbed off and on everyday since. cry
Today I tried to return to the school with a brave front ready to finish out my contract (10 days left).
I survived about 15 minutes. The principal told me to go home that I couldn't cry in front of the kids. The kids were due in the room in less than 5 minutes. I quickly gathered my stuff and left plans for my para-pro. I can't stop crying! smhair
I don't recall crying this hard when my favorite aunt and cousin died suddenly!
 
What gets me the most is I had never gotten a bad assessment or reprimand from my boss!
I do have several health problems and have filled out an ADA with the system, but I've managed to come to work everyday even when I was ill. I have 60 sick days built up from the years.
Now I can't see any job position available to me due to my health issues.
I have lupus, Degenerative disk and facet disease, asthma, photosensitive, and carpal tunnel.
 
I just want to stop crying! cry  
 
Not feeling my name today- 
Joy

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   Posted 5/8/2012 9:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Joy,

We grieve these things as we do any loss. I am sorry that this has happened to you. I would collect all my sick days and also sign up for unemployment if you can. You might want to talk to a professional about what you can and cannot sign up for.

Maybe there is another teaching job in your future. You can never tell what is around the next corner. And often good things come from bad things happening. It opens up a window of oppertunity that you did not see before. Keep your chin up.

It is natural to cry. Things like this really hurt us. It wasn't fair. You could always call an attorney and see if there is anything you can do. If you feel the need to.

Try to relax. There are some things in life we can't control. And that throws us for a loop. But hang in there, cry if you need to. Let it out. It is healthy.

Keep posting and know that we care Joy. You will feel better once you accept what happened. Things will get better for you.

Hugs, Karen
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medved
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   Posted 5/8/2012 12:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Joy --

You might want to talk with legal counsel about whether you may have been terminated improperly because of your health issues. If you are a union member, maybe your union has counsel with whom you can discuss this.

Best wishes, Medved

couchtater
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   Posted 5/8/2012 1:01 PM (GMT -6)   
We don't have a union in our system. I am granted a hearing on why I was released, which I will be calling for.
I told my boss my nerves were torn up and I needed the week to gather myself. I'm still required to finish the end of the year paperwork after hours.

I stopped crying long enough to take a nap, but I feel the tears gathering again after talking to my co-worker who's covering for me. I feel guilty not being there and having her burden the full load.
Joy

pocketfull
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   Posted 5/8/2012 1:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Joy, Im so sorry you lost your job. Im sure you know that losing your job and then going thru the process of finding a new one is listed as one of the top reasons for depression. Tops is losing a family member, dealing with severe illness and care taking. You will get past this and you still have a future. Give yourself permission to cry all you want and need to..Give yourself the right to grieve. Most of all is DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. You didnt ask for this. This depression is situational, you know what causes it, and you have a cure, witch is finding a new teaching job, probably better than the other one. Just think, you have until about august first to find a job, which you will do. Enjoy the time off. Depending on how your school was set up, if you got your salary over a 12 month period, then you will get paid thru the summer. If you still have your med. insurance, go have every test you can before it ends....you know, breast exam, upper and lower GI, Pap test, blood work up, everything your primary care doc. can help you get. I see a Joyful Joy. You have hit a bump in the road, and it hurts a lot, but go to some other subjects and look at the giant mountains in others peoples life. Bless you and be happy girl friend, even if its a half hour at a time..........remember, you have a new family to come to and will listen to you. until later....Cathy

pocketfull
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   Posted 5/8/2012 1:46 PM (GMT -6)   
PS Joy, I forgot to mention that you are already a strong strong woman. To have Lupus and the list of other illnesses is proof of that. Now, put your happy face on and do something fun and relaxing tonite. Its a choice. If you have a best friend, find a place and just cry your eyes out together. It wont last long because you will be laughing soon. Then, go to dairy queen and have a LARGE blizzard, works for me every time.

couchtater
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   Posted 5/8/2012 1:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Chocolate sounds great! :)

I've already been venting to my best friend. She called just minutes after I got the news. She pulled me up from the state I was in at the time. I was literally sick to my stomach.
Everytime I start to drop she seems to call me.
She retired 2 years ago on medical and sings praises that she went ahead and did it.
I wonder if I can draw unemployment before my check runs out? My last contract day is May 24th, but they spread the pay out until August 31st.

Now to go attack the Chocolate silk peanut butter....
Joy

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   Posted 5/8/2012 2:36 PM (GMT -6)   
I would call and ask about it. Maybe you can get signed up early enough so you don't miss any money. You might have to draw your sick pay first, or any vacation pay that you have coming. I hope this works out for you. I think you have gotten a lot of sound advice.

Hugs, Karen
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couchtater
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   Posted 5/8/2012 4:55 PM (GMT -6)   
I have 60 sick days built up, but it's lost when I leave the system, no refunds.
I'm going to try to get an emergency appointment with my rheumy and see if he will support my disability claim.
So many things to do...
Feeling very overwhelmed............
Joy
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