Your social worker has almost no psychotherapy training. It is a great misfortune that the very person who should be protecting is doing more harm than good. Criticizing a depressed person is akin to being a fireman who gets called to a fire and brings gasoline instead of water to add to the fire.
I find it laughable and a joke that they are actually the ones with a lot of clout in most mental health agencies and yet they seem to have (with exception to clinical social workers) very little empathy.
Excuse me while I rant for a minute. What the heck does curtains have to do with anything? Are you traumatizing your kids because of your curtains? I have not once seen a study or report on the affects that curtains have on kids good or bad.
Now I can't give much advice since you didn't give much to work with, you only stated you were depressed. Let me start by saying that you could try adjusting your communication style. In other words you need to state what is on your mind...truthfully.
Be totally honest and ASSERTIVE! Next time the social worker comes by you let him or her know you'd like to talk. As soon as they get in the house take (her) to the dining table and sit her down and tell her your concerns about
how you feel. Let her know that her attitude is causing you anxiety and hurting you and it is wrong. Please find a way to do this as positively as possible...no attitude on your part just be assertive.
This does not mean that you piss off this person, hence you do it as gently and kindly as you possibly can that is what assertive communication is. State what you feel, express what her actions are doing to you and tell her that you feel it is unfair to you. And whatever she replies you then let her know that you have the right to feel the way you do. Yes she might have some snippy remark to make but ignore it and restate that you have the right to express the way you feel (with no attitude on your part).
Next apologize to her for whatever way you have offended her and say nothing more just that you thought she should know how you feel. Tell her you really really REALLY appreciate all the assistance she can give that will make you a better parent.
In this way you have distracted her from the agenda she has (to make you miserable) and make your relationship with her a more positive (if possible) one.
Post Edited (natural1) : 5/16/2012 5:11:34 AM (GMT-6)