Trouble on my job got me depressed

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   Posted 5/17/2012 10:30 PM (GMT -6)   
I was doing better but these last couple of months have been getting the best of me.  I have been really stressed out on my job.  I've always had problems with my coworkers thinking I was the one who the director like.  They always made statements like he is grooming you.  All I wanted was to be like and to be honest my mind didn't even go there about a promotion.  I just did my job.  Well, do to some changes I did get promoted to supervisor.  One colleage in particular went around telling everyone she wanted me to have that job so that's why she didn't apply.  I just ignored it.  Well fast forward two years later another position came open and they gave it to this particular lady.  She made sure to call me and tell me she didn't have to go through what all I had to go through and that they like her just as much as me. 
In Feb, the lady who is over all the directors pulled me aside and said I want you to go back to school, so you can be director.  You have to have a master's degree and I have a bachelor's degree.  One of the ladies who worked for this particular lady heard it and she told this lady.  I didn't think anything of it because I was like where is my boss going. My boss even asked me when I was going back to school because he wasn't going to be there forever.  I was like he doesn't have another job...What's the point. I Just worked like I normally do.  Well, this particular lady would tell me about her workers and I told her oh I had the same problem with mines.  She went back and told my boss everything what I said.  Left out the parts she said. I asked her why did you tell what I said.  She didn't answer. 
They started telling the higher level people half truths and lies.  They twist my words. She wouldn't give me messages.  The top lady started telling me how I needed to handle my workers. My boss started acting different also.   This paticular lady would call me and say the top lady told her she was going to encourage me to go back to school.  She said see I'm too old to go back to school.  I'm 61. Every mistake I made (never mind it wasn't nothing to blow up), but they made it bigger than what it was.  For example, I put the information on line 131 and it was suppose to go on line 132.  She went and told the higher level people. I felt like she was trying to make me seem incompetent.  When I needed to be off she would tell my boss I will fill in for her.  Come to find out she was asking my workers what goes on around here.  You can tell me.  One of the ladys who she is friends with told my boss who are you going to give your position to.  I think you should give it to this particular lady.  I wish she would go back to school.  She knew I was in the next room.  She wanted me to hear it. 
I found out a couple of weeks ago the top lady is leaving and my boss is to take her job.  The director position will be avaliable.  I didn't know because I don't listen to office gossip and I'm at another location.  I usually tell them I don't want to hear it.  Now I know why she set me up.  I'm hurting and sad.  Fighting depression real hard.  My doctor gave me trial pack of lexapro.  Seriously I hope this helps.  I didn't realize they hated me so much.  All I wanted was to do my job to the best of my ability.  I can't understand she is 61 and I am 40.  I never said I wanted to be over her.  I would talk to my boss but he thinks she is wonderful and she makes it seem like she loves me. I don't know how to play this game.
Sorry so long!  I had a lot to get out.

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   Posted 5/18/2012 2:58 AM (GMT -6)   
hi cj
I don't have anything to say - just that I hope things improve xxx

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   Posted 5/18/2012 6:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cj,

I hope that htings get better for you. You work so hard. Try not to get into the politics at work. Just do your job and dont pay attention to the others. Watch what you say. It sounds like you are around a bunch of back stabbers.

I hope things work out for the best. They usually do.

Hang in there.

Hugs, Karen

PS good luck with the medications. They can take six to eight weeks to reach full potential. So be patient...
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   Posted 5/18/2012 7:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen, I will keep that in mind about the meds.  It gets hard sometimes but I'm trying to see the bright side.  Just seem unreal.
@ Livingwell, thanks you.  I hope things improve also.
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