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   Posted 5/18/2012 8:48 PM (GMT -6)   
So I'm wondering lately, this happiness I seek, what does if feel like? or maybe I should ask what do I want it to feel like?
Several months ago I was not depressed, but was I happy? I'm not so sure. Right now I suppose I would gladly settle for feeling that way again. But as I endure this depression I realize, I can dream even bigger - I can use this time to work on some things I want to change about myself and carry these changes forward to when I feel complete again.
Most of the things I would change are things that I believe also contributed to my condition. I will try to be less concerned about what other people think of me. I will re-consider what I really value in life, instead of seeking things like wealth, approval and sexual gratifaction, I will spend more energy helping and loving other people. I will learn to take life as it comes, count my blessings more often, let go of the past, focus on the present and not be as concerned about the future.
I like the idea that we can not only be happy but also choose the form of the happiness!

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   Posted 5/19/2012 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Exproud,

I think what you are saying is great. These things will help you. Keep up the great work. And yes, it is work, but as long as we are trying, things can get better. I am proud of you...

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   Posted 5/19/2012 8:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Happiness means different things to different people.

To me true happiness mean overall contentment and satisfaction with my life. It is the sum of things and it is a deep down feeling.

It means having all that I need in life, not what I want but what I truly need. Having things I want can bring joy but to me joy and happiness are two very different things. It is about knowing the difference between wants and needs and learning to focus on what is truly important.
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   Posted 8/5/2012 10:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Happiness brings self confidence, motivation, and self esteem. Keep up the good work.

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   Posted 8/5/2012 12:15 PM (GMT -6)   

I suggest you read the book "LovingKindness" it will open you eyes to this and many other questions to you may have on happiness.
the answer is different for everyone, because the answer is "inside" of each of us.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.

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