I think that last thing I need help with is this: When you have been together for so long and been thru and shared so much, hardship, stress, unemployment, one person doing everything, it can't be that easy to start over. His depression and moodiness has impacted a lot of parts of our relationship including somewhat depleting me. Taking some time apart could mean a lot of things but I think under our circumstances, it's critical for him to feel good about
himself and feel like he's able to be the kind of person he thinks I deserve, without me carrying him. During this time, we will still be seeing each other because of our pets, but he also wants to remain friends. He has been incredibly depressed and suffered a great deal, all with me being there for him and pulling the full load in every possible way. Although we did talk about
how much we love each other, he seems to think that a "Romeo & Juliet" kind of love is a lasting thing. I've said that an idea like that is incredibly diluted because that is NOT a lasting love. He's always been very
open and honest and seemingly not afraid to say things even if it may hurt my feelings. Am I wrong to really believe that once we make the break it will only improve our relationship and allows us back together after some time to reclaim ourselves? We have not determined a time but we had planned on buying a bigger and better house in the spring of next year. I know how important it is for one to have a strong sense of "self" in a relationship and since we haven't had that, once we both do, the 6 1/2 years of love and time will not have diminished our love but make it stronger. I do realize that nothing is certain, but because we've always been so
open and honest with each other, if this was not necessary for our success together in the long-run, he would just say it. Am I over-thinking this too much?
By the way, I am 32 and he is 42.
Post Edited (FE0306) : 5/24/2012 2:25:37 PM (GMT-6)