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64herald
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   Posted 6/1/2012 5:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm a new member on this site, and came in on threads concerning Cipralex. I wonder how many readers have had therapy for their depression as well as relying on Medication? In my case, I was on Zoloft for 15 yrs, but have only recently been to a therapist who has helped me confront my problem. The use of Zoloft seemed to be the only solution other doctors could come up with. I went off it a year ago because it didn't seem to help. I am now starting Cipralex with the hope that it will help me through this bad time.
I can't stress enough the importance of seeing a competent therapist as well as using anti-depressants.

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   Posted 6/1/2012 5:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Herald,

Nice to see you post. I go to therapy and take medications. I have been in therapy off and on for about 25 years. I go every other month now because the distance is far and I have been doing well. But I continue to go. It does help a lot.

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64herald
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   Posted 6/1/2012 7:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen,
It must be that long for me too. But a lot of time was dealing with superficial symptoms rather than the core issues which are what are troubling me now. I sometimes wonder if it does more harm than good.

Herald

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   Posted 6/1/2012 7:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I think it depends on the situation. Some things are best left behind, but if it is effecting your everyday life, then it is worh looking into. I do have a tendancy to ignore things. So if I have issues, I don't know... I let things slide by... I don't find it worth rehashing. But I dealt with a lot of past issues when I was in my thirties. I am in my fifties now. I had a cruddy past and childhood. But now life is good and I want to keep it that way. Though there was a time when I didn't feel that way. But you need to recognize it, acknowledge it and then put it all behind you and live for the present. Life goes by too fast to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Live in the moment. It is actually easier once you let yourself do that. I wish you the best.

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64herald
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   Posted 6/2/2012 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen,
Well I'm in my late 60s, and a lot of stuff didn't get looked at until a year or so ago after my Mother died. I too had a crazy childhood, but always buried it with work. Now I'm retired I guess I have more time to dwell on things.

Herald

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   Posted 6/2/2012 2:26 PM (GMT -6)   
This often happens especially if the person who dies is the one who was abusive towards you. It kind of sounds like it is her. Then we feel safer and a lot of things start coming out in our minds. Because we can handle it now. Was she abusive to you? Do you think you are going through post traumatic stress disorder? That can happen at any age. I am really happy that you have a threapist to help you through this. Take it as it comes. If you are thinking about it too much, then write it down on a piece of paper and put it somewhere safe. Maybe you can move on with things easier. Kind of like a safe place for your thoughts. It is funny what the past can do to us, but you will deal with this at your pace. You are on a healing journey, which isn't always easy. But it is doable, and it does get easier along the way. Keep on keeping on.

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64herald
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   Posted 6/2/2012 3:11 PM (GMT -6)   
You are correct and very perceptive Karen. My mother was rather abusive and belittling toward me. My therapist agrees that it is PTSD, even though it happened over 50yrs ago! She is also puzzled why I'm not showing more anger towards my mother. As is my wife. Therapist thinks I need to develop some anger towards my mother, but I'm just a bit scared that it will make things worse. Writing it down first migt be able good way to ease into it.
Herald

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   Posted 6/2/2012 3:35 PM (GMT -6)   
As time goes by, you may become angry at the way she was. I always had a way of forgiving my mother, and she had a way of making me feel guilty. But I think I have come to terms with that. I did have my anger for awhile, though I felt bad for her mostly.

You will get through this, take each step as it comes. The stronger you get the more that you will see it for what it is. Or was... It isn't easy, but your mind protects you and gives you only as much as you can handle at any given time. ptsd is strange. But I think it is necessary to cope. Our mind is complicated in ways that we can't even imagine. Just take this as it comes, one day at a time.

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   Posted 6/2/2012 3:56 PM (GMT -6)   
I always seem to make excuses for my mother's behaviour as well, and feel guilty for upsetting her. She didn't get a lot of emotional support growing up either, or from my Dad. Neither did I get much from him either. Misplaced respect for our parents?
I will try writing a letter to Her explaining my feelings - even though she's not around anymore. And fingers crossed for Cipralex!
Thankyou for your insights.

Herald

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   Posted 6/2/2012 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I think that is a wonderful idea. I hope that it works for you. I find writing things down really helps. I don't really know how to explain it, like documenting your feelings, then you can see them from different perspectives and examine them. Good luck. Let me know how it goes and if it helps.

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