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   Posted 5/1/2005 10:34 AM (GMT -6)   
    about 2 weeks ago i proposed to my girlfriend of almost 5 years, and we are going to be getting married sometime in august of 06. i think back on some of the things i have done to her and i wonder why she is with me. i never cheated on her, but that doesn;t mean i wouldn;t have if i had had the chance. i would never do it now, as we have grown closer due to my anxiety and depression problems and she has been my rock. i think my problem was i just never appreciated her, but thank god i came to my senses in time to start and realize how much she means to me. i love her more then life it's self sometimes and truly believe she is my soul mate. i love every little thing about her, like the face she makes while sleeping or how she will talk to me in her sleep and not remember any of it the next morning or even how she gets mad at me for forgetting to take the garbage out on garbage day and all i have to do is give her a puppy dog look and she smiles and forgets it. i just could not imagine what it would be like to go through what i am going through right now by myself. i have been very emotional lately, mostly because i held in alot of my true feelings about my dads death for years and years, and am finally letting them out. all she does is comfort me and never judges. she loves me for me, which is such a great thing. i feel like we will be together forever. we are starting to excercise together, and she is even switching over to my diet of low fat low sodium even though i'm the one with the family history of heart disease and not her. but i think i would do the same for her if the roles were reversed. anyways, sorry if im rambling, but i kinda use this as my journal to get everything out.

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   Posted 5/1/2005 3:13 PM (GMT -6)   
You are a very blessed man Sober. Your fiance sounds like a very caring person and a person who really care about you. What a blessing.
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   Posted 5/2/2005 7:58 AM (GMT -6)   
You sound like you are both blessed you have found each other. Support is one of the most important things in a marriage and you are off to a great start. Congratulations on your engagement!!
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   Posted 5/2/2005 10:22 AM (GMT -6)   
thank you. i feel very blessed. she is always there to cheer me up no matter how down i get. she has even helped me in my job search and when im asleep during the day because of my graveyard shift work schedule, she sends resumes out for me from work. i know she wants the best for me, and that always puts a smile on my face. my mom has also helped me alot, as she is going through depression also. she has been on prozac for 7 months now, and says she feels happy again. im just starting out, but i have my hopes high on this.

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   Posted 5/2/2005 10:38 AM (GMT -6)   
yeah  I am very happy for you. This is a very positive post. She sounds wonderful and very understanding. I also think it is wise to wait till 06. You are putting her first and that's called love. We have all done things we aren't proud of so you are in good company. The factt hat you have learned that they aren't good says that you are on the right path. Good luck and God bless!
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   Posted 5/2/2005 11:01 AM (GMT -6)   
thanks lefty. i feel like you can't really move forward unless you admit your mistakes. i have admitted everything i have done to her, which is nothing bad, but still felt good to get it off my chest. it's almost like we are starting with a clean slate together. but now i am really going to make an effort to be the best husband i can be for her and not make the same mistakes i made before. i feel i was a boy before, and now i can finally call myself a man.

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   Posted 5/2/2005 12:24 PM (GMT -6)   

One thing I have learned over the past 18 months is that recognizing the core basic values that are missing in and I want to add to myself is the first step. I might not like the person I once was, but I do like the person that I am becoming. Does that mean my journey of change is over. Of course not. It is just beginning as I see what I like about me and want to add more of, and the things I don't care for and want to remove. Good luck on your journey>
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