I think i need help???

am i loosing my mind??
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   Posted 6/13/2012 5:29 PM (GMT -6)   
JiI am a 33 mum of 4 married good job... but im so unhappy i have experienced alot of bad things in my past and feel i cant cope anymore...
My husband works away more and more now and i feel were falling apart i feel so trapped that my role in life is just a mother cleaner cook and part time wife when wanted.
i cant stop crying at the moment...
My kids are scared to see me cry.. i just want to get in my car and drive far away as possible which then upsets me more because i do truly love my children and husband.
i cant seem to deal with comments from my husband at the moment when he's having a digbecause my ex husband doesnt bother about the kids ( all 4 by ex husband )
I feel so lost i look in the mirror and i dont recognise the woman looking back anymore.
I have to put a brave face on to everyone that everything is ok
Im arguing with my husband more and more now
No wonder he's happy to work away .... all i want is to be cuddled and loved.
we have many financial issues that are left for me to deal with.
Its all to much now i dont know what to do? ??

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   Posted 6/13/2012 6:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Millwsll,

I am sorry that you are feeling this way. Have you tried telling your husband how you feel? Or does he talk down to you when you do?

Do you see a doctor? I would let my doctor know how you are feeling. You may need an antidepressant or something. Maybe some talk therapy. I go all the time. And I am on antidepressants, most of us here are. It is nothing to be ashamed of or anything.

Try taking life one day at a time. Try not to think about the financial issues until you can do something about them. Don't let it worry you to death. It will if you let it. Try to live in the moment too. That helps you to not worry about things that you can do nothing about. I know being a mother and a wife is demanding. But making the most out of it is best. Children grow up so fast. I am sure you don't want them to see you cry either. We are only human though. Give yourself a pat on the back for all that you have done. Take care...

Keep posting...

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/13/2012 10:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Hiya Mill,

Wow, sounds like you have way too much to deal with all at once. Being a mother is a full time job that can be exhausting. Having to raise the kids alone so much has got to be rough. Are you on meds for depression? Maybe they need adjusting?

Have you told your husband it makes you feel bad when he digs at you? Sometimes people don't realize how hurtful words are. Don't take all the blame for fighting, it takes two. To deal with the fighting you might try figuring out where things turn into a fight and avoiding those topics. Walk away and cool off. Then calmly talk again. Easy for me to say harder for you to do, i know.

I hope you keep coming back and posting here, there are a lot of good people here who will listen when you need to vent and not judge you. *huggles*
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