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Date Joined Jun 2012
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   Posted 6/29/2012 1:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone. Hoping someone can give me some guidance on this. My boyfriend and I met through a depression support group. He has had a tough few weeks. Tonight he called and said he didn't want to continue to lead me on and was breaking up with me. The more we talked, he said how much he likes me, how wonderful and sweet i am, that he wants to remain friends, and continue to talk and do things together outside of the support group. Said he has been thinking this way for a few weeks, yet this past Sunday HE planned a whole day for us together - we went to his church, back to his house where he made us a lovely lunch, went to the movies, and had dinner with his parents. I suspected that the reasoning may have been a subject that was briefly mentioned between us a few months ago, that he doesn't normally go out with overweight woman (which i am). Tonight's response was that he has a few times, and that was not the issue at all. That the issue is not me at all, he just feels so messed up right now. I miss what we had already and it has only been a few hours! The funny thing is i don't know if i even considered him my boyfriend - to me we were just supporting each other and enjoying each other's company. I don't know what to do??? We are both very easy going and sensitive. He has brought back some of my faith in God, and told me that even through his feeling like this he has continued to mention me in his prayers each day. I feel very alone, no God, no
John. Any advice, suggestions, guidance??

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Date Joined May 2012
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   Posted 6/29/2012 4:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jobear and welcome to the forum.

Wow, that had to be a blow to you. I'm so sorry you have to feel this pain. I'm also overweight and I know how hard it is to think you've lost someone because of that. It may or may not be the real reason he 'broke up' with you. It doesn't really matter in the long run. What matters is that you are in pain right now. My advice is to take some time to work this out in your head. Then you can decide if you want to hang out with this guy. If it were me, I'd move on. He wants all the benefits of a girlfriend but just doesn't want to call you his girlfriend. Sounds selfish to me. Be glad you found out now and get on with your life.

This forum is great for support and friendship. It sounds like you have a lot of support already but a little extra never hurts :)
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   Posted 6/29/2012 5:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jobear,

I would also like to welcome you to the forum. It is early and I still need coffee. Will write more later.

Hugs, Karen
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