How do you cope with your depression???

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   Posted 6/30/2012 6:49 AM (GMT -6)   
I just thought I would start a thread where we can all share how we cope with our depression.
 
Do you have a lot of drama in your life?  How do you cope with that?
 
I find it is hard to cope with drama, so I keep my life as stress free as possible.  Live in the moment and take life one day at a time.
 
Not all of us can do that.  A lot of us have to work and deal with stress everyday.  Please share how you cope with daily stress.
 
I think we can all help eachother...
 
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   Posted 6/30/2012 7:06 AM (GMT -6)   
GOOD ONE KAREN.

WRITING, WALKING, MY BIGGEST AND FAVOURITE-MUSIC, ALONG WITH MY FRIENDS.
OH, NOT FORGETTING MY LITTLE FUR-BALL, BUTTONS!!!

JAMIE
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   Posted 6/30/2012 8:21 AM (GMT -6)   
I forgot to mention walking Jamie, I do that every day.

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   Posted 6/30/2012 4:48 PM (GMT -6)   
JB1,

I love watching funny things on tv. I love stand up comedy and sit coms. It really distracts my mind from things that are bothering me. I use a lot of distractions I guess. Mostly just trying to focus on what I am doing.

I am glad that you have a best friend to talk to. That is a bonus...

Exercise is fantastic. I like to walk. I can't power walk, but I can walk kind of fast. It helps to swing your arms, especially if one is trying to lose weight. I always feel better after I walk.

Thanks for posting and sharing what helps you. If you can think of more things, post them too.

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Kaely
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   Posted 7/1/2012 9:04 PM (GMT -6)   
I love to play with my kitties. It always cheers me up to see them playing :)

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   Posted 7/2/2012 6:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Kitties are sweet Kaely,

I have a dog. She comforts me...

I am glad you posted on what helps you...

Thanks for sharing...

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   Posted 7/3/2012 3:35 PM (GMT -6)   
I cannot deal with drama too. If there is any conflict I start feeling depressed.

I meditate and write on journal what I feel. Also I have a cat, I love playing with.
Maggie

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   Posted 7/3/2012 6:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Maggie,

It seems like it has been awhile since you posted. It is nice to hear from you. I actually meditate too. I have found it really helps to ground me. I am glad that you have a cat. I have a dog. I love playing with her too.

Thanks for posting.

Take care,

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Michael In NY
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   Posted 7/4/2012 5:54 AM (GMT -6)   
 
 
(1) Did some online research and found an over the counter product several months ago that has 5 ingredients that eases tension and has a calming effect.  I'm also taking an ultra potency supplement. 
 
(2) When depression began in January, I almost never left apartment (I'm retired).  Since early June, I'm out walking 3 - 4 hours a day.  According to a pedometer, I doing between 6 - 8 miles a day.  I need to lose 20 lbs and will accomplish this with walking and diet.  Losing weight is making a differene on how I feel.
 
(3) I'm now eating healthy.  No more unhealthy food deliveries from restaurants especially chinese.  I'm now preparing meals with heavy emphasis on salads, fruits, vegetables and seafood.
 
(4) Will begin seeing a therapist on a weekly basis.  I've already been to two intake sessions that was used to collect data.
 
When the depression began in early January, I did nothing to help myself until about 5 weeks ago.  Life was beyond miserable.  It still not great but better. 
 
I visit two depression sites including this one and it helps.  I don't post often but it helps to see that I'm not alone.  I consider myself fortunate in that this began late in life.  I'm also grateful that I'm not dealing with other issues such as financial and lack of insurance. 
 
 

Post Edited (Michael In NYC) : 7/4/2012 6:54:04 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 7/4/2012 7:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for posting Michael,

And good luck with feeling better. Thanks for sharing. The forum does help to know you aren't alone...

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tootired33
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   Posted 7/6/2012 6:30 PM (GMT -6)   
I commend everyone in this forum who has shared their stories! I am new to the forum, and I too suffer from depression along with many other things.
For me, at first I was on EVERY pill the doctors could prescribe, but I realized that the anti-depressants were making me suicidal.
Once I got off of them, I have been fine as far as that issue goes:)
I still suffer from Depression, it will not just go away! However I tend to deal with things different as I've grown up.

And yes Drama & stress Don't help a depressed person!
I can't change the things that made me this way...so I learned to live with it. Do I think about certain things daily? Yes...I won't lie!
However for me, I can't change the past, or present...as far as my health. I have to just take it and move on.
I've always told others who tell me to get on meds...that for me it's mind over matter! I had to make it that way, or I would be dead!!
Just try to stay as positive as you can, and be with the ones who honestly care and Love you, and won't judge you!

Take care, getting by :)
And everyone else who suffers from Depression

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   Posted 7/6/2012 8:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen:  You know that I have been struggling with depression for a long time now.  But, it has taken me a VERY long time to realize that a good deal of it was due to drama.  Until a few years ago that drama was totally out of my control.  Now, a good bit is still out of my control, but I have finally begun to realize that I can take the majority of it back.  I need to really do a lot of hard work and studying that I have been talking about forever.  It isn't going to get any better until this happens.
 
For the first time in over 20 years, I am living more like a "normal" person.  Right now my condo is so clean and organized (excluding my girls' rooms - which I'm trying to deal with) and I have found that keeps me grounded and the depression is more controlled.
 
I have started taking short walks and I now that I'm in a condo (and out of my home) I see more people when I walk my dog.  Because she is so cute people always stop to talk to me.  That is a huge ice breaker.
 
I do need to work on exercise and eating better food but it is too hard to change everything at once.
 
Last, which is most important to me, per Happy Bill's sharing of his life in the Bipolar Forum (which I have found many good tips from) is I have learned Acceptance.  I am where I am and things have happened and I can't go back and change them.  I get that now.  This has been big for me.  Last, according to many around me I need to forgive myself to help feel better.  That is something I don't know how or feel capable of doing.  If anyone can help me with their own experiences I would be grateful.
 
Thanks,
Cass

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   Posted 7/7/2012 12:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Tootired and welcome to the forum :)

I think that's one of the things that people find hardest to understand about us. Not everyone is the same. For some people drugs help, for others they don't. For some people counseling is the key, for others it isn't.

You are the only one who lives in your head and knows what is going on in there. Obviously you are coping with your depression as best you can.
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   Posted 7/7/2012 1:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Cassandra,

Have you tried writing a letter to yourself? You can write down all the reasons you are upset/angry with yourself. Go into as much detail as possible. Get as much of the feeling down on paper as you can.

Once you are done, burn it. Tearing it up works too. Just destroy it and let your feelings of anger toward yourself go with it. That, of course is the hard part. Letting go is never easy even if it's something that is bad for you.

This most likely won't solve everything immediately and please feel free to alter this to fit you and your life. It's simply a way to get the feelings out in a productive way. It's always made me feel a bit better and more able to forgive myself for things real or imagined.

Hope this helps :)
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   Posted 7/7/2012 5:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for posting guys. You have added some very important info to this thread. I appreciate each and every one of you. Now for more coffee....

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   Posted 7/7/2012 8:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello,
I am a newly joined member and hope to make new friends and talk at length about my depression state in the hopes of some sort of healing.
I think a good way to cope with depression is definitely writing things down..that helps because it's not something you carry around constantly. I also like listening to music and watching a funny tv show or movie. I would also recommend exercising and if you are able, get a change in scenery.

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   Posted 7/7/2012 11:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Amergoldusa,

Thanks for replying to this thread, and welcome to the depression forum. I hope to hear more from you (read). I hope that you are having a good day...

Take care, and keep posting...

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   Posted 7/10/2012 9:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I've come to realize what makes my depression worse is when I think about the future or think about the past. I have huge anxiety about the future because I couldn't function on my job and have been on disability since March of 2006. I NEVER imagined I would still be on disability in 2012. I'm 50 years old and have really nothing in the way of retirement set aside and things seem very bleak. The past makes me depressed because of all the losses. It seems like getting older is just accumulating more losses. I try to just stay in the present. I'm not very good at it because I started to stray several times in writing this and had to delete what I wrote. I do better though, if I just stay in the present moment. I exercise 6 days a week, which helps a tremendous amount and I try to just focus on my breathing when I'm running and on the way my muscles feel, when I'm weight training. I hope to get back in to meditation also. I practiced that 25 years ago and found it cleared my mind and helped me to find some calmness.

Kathy

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   Posted 7/11/2012 2:34 AM (GMT -6)   
My bike is my 'juice'. But times like now(temps in the 90's) are really depressing. Because it is too hot for me to bike without getting heatstroke, and I start dwelling on the past and all the mistakes.

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   Posted 7/11/2012 6:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Kathy, Staying in the present and focussing is the key to getting better. I am glad that you practice that. Good job!!!

Chris, I hope it cools down so you can ride your bike...

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   Posted 7/17/2012 4:03 AM (GMT -6)   
THIS FORUM HELPS ME, IMMENSELY. THANKS ALL.

WITH HEALING COMPASSION,

JAMIE
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RAPID CYCLING BI-POLAR DISORDER

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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   Posted 7/17/2012 5:39 AM (GMT -6)   
HEY JAMIE,

I LOVE HEARING THAT...

I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING WELL.

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   Posted 7/17/2012 5:46 AM (GMT -6)   
STILL FIGHTIN' MY FRIEND.

AS MAGGIE SAYS 'NEVER SURRENDER'!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JAMIE
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   Posted 7/19/2012 4:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Is it too late to add to this very good thread?

Taking care of my plants, inside and out, helps me.

I love the summer when I can have all sorts of plants on my deck. It is very relaxing.

Hope

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   Posted 7/19/2012 4:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I love plants too. And no it isn't too late to add to this thread. I am glad that you did.

I hope everybody is having a good day.

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