My husband has always been such a fun loving happy person up until a few months ago. This was about 5 months after the birth of our first child. I love him and our little family so much. He says he loves us so much too and that we aren't the problem. He just says he's not happy, but doesn't understand why. He loves me and our daughter and says he has everything he could want, but he's still unhappy. He just chalks it up to him being "crazy" or that something is wrong with him. He's very unhappy with his job and I think that's the main cause, but what do I know. I wish he'd talk to someone....professionally, but he says he just can't see himself doing that. He has been talking to his brother and his best friend. He's very upset that he's causing me pain and I get the vibe that he thinks I'd be happier out of the marriage. He says he's a loser and a failure and things of that nature. That couldn't be further from the truth. I would fall apart without him. I need to know what to do to hold on to my marriage and my family. I just want to cry all the time. He's always been my rock and I am trying my hardest to be his now. I can't fail at this.
Your situation sounds almost eerily similar, to my situation.
Depression runs in my family and, I was on meds like Paxil, Prozac, and Dexedrine for years until I stopped taking them. While that is how I reacted to my depression, I am an extrovert.
My younger(2yrs. 2mos. younger) brother who has a Ph.D., yet, is an introvert. There were a couple years, where he wouldn't speak to anyone in the family. My mother told me just a few months ago, that my brother has been suicidal. His 14yr. marriage may be in trouble as a result of it.
I did get suicidal in the past, but I found my emotional outlet to be my racing road bike. While it is not direct voice-to-voice contact with people, riding my bike in traffic gives me a sense of pride that I can do it, despite my congenital health issues.
I am not saying go out, get a bike, and ride in traffic, that will cure you. Riding in traffic is only for the bravest of souls since state traffic codes permit it. But I am saying, since cycling is my passion that I feel strongly about
, make your husband your passion(in your case, both literally and figuratively). Go at his depression like, 'taking a bull by horns' and bringing it down.