Should I leave my job?

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adviceseeker86
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   Posted 7/9/2012 12:27 PM (GMT -6)   
So I come from a not so affluent family, have been a model student through out and managed to get into top school of the country and pass with flying colours.
After graduation it took me 6 months to find my current job that too at one of the top companies, I was although shifted to an offshore location. Had some family there so relocating didn’t matter much to me. Supervisors were atleast on face helping enough to tell me take a year to learn and the other to deliver and come back to your family and join the H.O. pretty neat eh?
The problem the administrative supervisor at the location was less than compromising/supportive. The place soon turned into a bullying environment, I was heading a team who themselves are quite old in the company but ofcourse have limited knowledge, thus a supervisor was assigned over them. I was learning learning learning and decided to deliver aswell. So it all started the admin. Supervisor had issues of me not reporting to him so without proper learning and getting the knowledge of business I started reporting, I was caught up on how to properly do it but managed to provide him reports. This wasn’t it, a part of my responsibility was to audit chemical inventory aswell, I didn’t mind I actually enjoyed it but I was told to bend audits so that discrepancies are not shown at international level. Coordinate with other departments hell of a fun. And then one fine day I got a call from admin supervisor to do something against policies and he doesn’t have enough time to validate it. Aanh so I refused and got yelled at very harshly, I was really caught up but to be supportive I did it and later got it validated from him, and this was just start to a non-ending journey, I was frequently asked to bend the policies in almost all regards, some of them I got done on his terms and later got validated some I refused some got done without any validations. AAANHHHHH OKAY. In the mean time external audits started or atleast notices came ofcourse I was contacted because as told I was the right person for audits to be done so I asked for data from H.O. and they were like why panic man have a cup of tea with them and everything will vanish wink wink. On the other hand being the supervisor everything was being channeled through me, yes I don’t mind but I ask my experienced subordinate to help he’s either too busy or too frustrated to be messed with but was supportive enough to answer my every query. I felt a bit uneasy bothering him and at many times he simply told me Sorry but that even I don’t know. Urm ok. So next best move I called my actual supervisor umm can we have a meeting answer was always same SORRY DUDE I AM A BIT BUSY. And one day he calls me YAYYYY JOY. He tells me to fire one of the guys I was supervising, ofcourse I asked the reason and he explained and asked me to intervene if I find it wrong that he is getting fired so I defended him. Even in the middle of me telling him he told me off by saying but we have taken decision so lets fire him I was like okay. So we fired him and after some time I get a call that there are some other things that are wrong too so you and I need to have a discussion. RED LIGHT RED LIGHT I was like ok lets discuss and answer sorry dude I am busy lets talk tomorrow? OK so I wait tomorrow in hyper tension and day after that I called him and he’s like oh that it was nothing. I started second guessing my work so do I panic no no I called him and asked for training, very happily he agrees and tells me to drop him an email and I did, no response, I call him SORRY DUDE I AM BUSY. Ok so we hit a rock there and I stopped.
Now I don’t know anything about work, my subordinates don’t, H.O. says WE ARE BUSY, Govt. queries get no response due to H.O. being busy, I get pushed by admin supervisor, more work coming this way that require me working and others inputting, and input providers have only one thing to say WE ARE BUSY.
Lets talk about what goes at home, hours of constant no electricity when I get back, work hours (51 hours per week) never allow me to visit family, so what do I do I catch up on work after work hours. I try to learn things on internet, never works public info and companies working always conflict. I am so much caught up in this whole situation that I don’t feel like eating anymore, I just come back open laptop learn how to work. So I am pretty much stressed out, I take days off and cant stop thinking of work its taking up my life. I visited doctors to seek help for constant headaches and he just said one thing DON’T STRESS, but its no choice I just cant seem to take my mind off work because I am trying to leran. This has been my daily routine since past 2.5 months so I decided to relax took up yoga met friends and nothing worked friends keep on telling me dude SPEAK and I am just too engrossed in my thoughts more or less about work. On the other hand due to family issues I cant move my family (mother and sister) to this particular location, my mother has developed muscle problems and visits doctor on daily basis and it further kills me by thinking I cant be there for her when she needs me because of darn work that’s making me totally unhappy aswell.
The admin supervisor is abusive, only ok when policies are bent as per his wish and he is given the top most priority. The actual supervisor never returns calls or emails. When I talk to my coworkers they say it will always be like this so u just need to NOT WORRY and go on with it.
The place is wonderful as far as growth opportunities are concerned or so I hear, (the contemporary guy at other offshore location is stuck there since past 3 years yet I m promised to be called up after 2 years ye right).
Current Situation: It has only been 5.5 months and already feels like a lifetime, when I talk to my brother about it he tells me its same everywhere even he is going through same at a foreign country so I need to hang in there. What do I do I hang in there . I have given up calling friends family and even on work because I just feel so scared and in-confident to even talk to people. So I got myself 2 interviews at equal attractive places but couldn’t go because I was physically unable to and my work hours didn’t allow me to go to a different city to attend interviews either. Now I have a constantly throbbing nerve with migrane on left side of my brain, got kidney stones and back aches and I still am coping up with it remembering how hard it was to find a job in the first place. I feel stuck here and possibly can’t look for other because of being caught up. All I can think of doing is either QUIT MY LIFE OR QUIT THE JOB! Each day of my life is getting more difficult both at where I live and at workplace
OFCOURSE I CANT END LIFE but QUITTING JOB in which I have only been for 4-5 months WITHOUT CONSULTING SOMEONE WOULD BE EQUALLY SCARRING.
Should I leave? Or should I cope up with things the way they are because their aren’t any ways out. Even if I go out for interviews I lack confidence to talk to anyone let alone interviews these days. No one believes me on mental part because apparently I physically look perfectly fine so I am not even going to talk on that. The only proof of my situation is a report showing pebbles in my kidneys, both of them.
Other Problems with workplace:
No Photostat/printer
Loose internet connections
No proper toilet system
No admin dept./IT dept. to take care of above problems

Post Edited (adviceseeker86) : 7/9/2012 1:24:00 PM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 7/9/2012 1:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I would print out your post as a documation of what is going on. Do make the interviews. I think you should looik for another job. Things aren't right where you are. Go to the interviews. That is the only thing stopping you. Make the time, take off of work if you have to. They can just think you are sick.

I had to edit your post as we cannot discuss suicide on this forum. But if you get that way again, there are some sites and numbers in "depression resources" which is the first thread on this forum. Do not hesitate to call somebody.

Keep hanging in there, but keep looking for something better. Write down everything everyday when you are working. It is considered a legal document if you date it. You might need this in the future. Get out of that work invironment. Get something better for you.

Hugs, Karen
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adviceseeker86
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   Posted 7/9/2012 1:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the support. I come from a country where companies literally operate by find loop holes in the system. I find it my inability not to be able to cope up with the situation. I have given emailed a resignation letter as we speak and am hoping to get it approved. I plan to move back to my family and find something in the city with my family in it so that worse comes to worse if i end up in a similar situation I atleast have a home to return to...
As far as your suggestion of taking offs is concerned the place is supportive enough to think I am sick and i take days off on and off, try to meet my family but fail due to long commute. And even if I go to family i feel so little and such a runaway from all of it that i cant help it but either go to H.O. on my days off or call my subordinates to know how things are going....
I know its going to be difficult and time consuming and might be more depressing but i hope the stress level and migranes to go low.
I would appreciate if the post is kept on this forum and not made more public, there is a reason i stay anonymous while posting it. The reason i dont know myself for sure but i would like it to stay anonymous and the post to be as less circulated as possible.

Thanks
Adivce Seeker

getting by
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   Posted 7/9/2012 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
This is a public site. So if you don't want your posts read, you might want to delete them. Or I can if you want me to. But I hope you copied your first post incase you need it.

I am really glad that you are leaving that job. It doesn't sound like things were too straight there and fair to you. Too much things going unchecked and sounds bad. I am hoping you find a better job. Don't feel like you are failing. You are just changing scenery.

Good luck...

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

adviceseeker86
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   Posted 7/9/2012 3:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen means alot. Oh no its ok if the post is here i just dont want it to get circulated. You said you are going to take a print of it, that worried me.

I guess its for better. Sure i have alot to think and an effort to make, there are very few jobs in market and i have to provide for the family but i couldn't have had i died.. if physical health hadnt done the trick i probably would have ended it myself but i feel much relaxed a bit perplexed as it is a huge decision with alot of bleak consequences...

Post Edited (adviceseeker86) : 7/9/2012 4:09:25 PM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 7/9/2012 4:09 PM (GMT -6)   
No, I didn't want to print it, I think you should to document some of the things that went on at work in case you ever need to remember or if you need it as evidence for anything. Because you explained it so well and there is a lot of information in your post.

I, as I said before, am glad you are leaving that job as it seems like it is very stressful and the bosses don't seem so honest. I am sure if something went wrong, they would try to put it all on you if they could. There are some untrustworthy people in the world, I have had bosses like that and coworkers like that. But stay honest.

Take care and have a good evening.

Hugs, Karen
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