Ok, so there is this guy. I met him a couple months ago at a bar (it was actually for an art event though, we both like to draw). We started talking to each other and hit it off...it didn't even really occur to me that he was so much older until I asked his age...he's 41 and I'm 21. It still didn't matter much though, because I'm open to spending time with anyone as long as we get along well and like each other. So I started hanging out with him, and we were getting pretty close to each other. But the third time I saw him he told me something about his life that completely shocked me. And since then it's been so confusing and upsetting....(this whole year has been really hard on me, and I guess it's now led to this). He told me he was arrested two years ago for possession of child ****ography. As soon as I heard that I of course was baffled. I asked a million questions, and googled him since it was on the news and everything. The charge is what he said it was, and he admits he had a **** addiction and some of the pictures he downloaded were of young teenage girls, but that he's never, ever touched a child or would even consider it. I've spent this whole time weighing the facts in my head. I believe he's never molested anyone or would, but I do this it's disturbing that he spent so much time looking at young girls. He admitted it was wrong and he's been in therapy for years now, his wife divorced him and he's facing prison time if he's convicted of this (the trial been on hold this whole time). I feel bad for him, and now for myself being wrapped up in this. We both get along well personality wise and I feel attached to him now, at least as a friend. I haven't had sex with him yet because of this. He obviously has issues and he's afraid to be seen in public with me by his friends who know about his charges. So I see him basically in secret. And it feels wrong and weird, yet I've been EXTREMELY attracted to this person. To the point of obsession almost :( I know this needs to come to some kind of healthy conclusion, because we're both addicted to each other, and it's being kept secret and it's scary and it's starting to make me really angry and bitter in all other areas of my life. UGHDFKJDF. Why do I have to be so into this person? I feel like I must be bad to end up in such awful relationships
I am glad, that you still are. Yes, He is a douchebag for what he did. But he didn't hide it from you.
You sound like you have a better heart, than his ex-wife does.
If you still have feelings for him, start watching/looking up, the A&E cable channel show 'Prison Wives'. While he probably won't end up being a 'lifer', like many of the male convicts mentioned in the show, you sound like a good, honest, forgiving woman. So keep in touch with him.