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Inxthexskyxwithxdimonds
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   Posted 7/16/2012 10:50 AM (GMT -6)   
So I promised my little brother that if he passed all his classes this year that I would take him to the Alice cooper and iron maiden show. Well his report card came in and he failed the one class he really needed to pass. So I didnt buy him a ticket. But now its the day of the show and my mom thinks I'm being to hard on him. Should I give him my ticket? Or buy him one to the kiss show that he would be more excited for? I feel really guilty but I've been dying to go for months. But I dout I'll be able to get out there. My mother won't drive me or let me use her car cuz of " what I pulled". Was I wrong? Should I give my brother the ticket and miss the show of a lifetime? Btw I was raised on iorn maiden I even have Eddie tattooed on me and this is the first time they've came to my town in years. What's the right thing to do here??

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   Posted 7/16/2012 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I would ask him if he wanted to go to Kiss. Tell him if he can do better in that class that you will buy him a ticket. You are in a tough spot. Is there anyway that you could get another ticket?

This is a tough call. Because you really need to stand by what you said to teach him a lesson. But if your mother isn't backing you, it makes it difficult to stick through. You wanted to go and see Iron Maiden... You got yourself a ticket and planned on going. Tell him you will get him a ticket for Kiss. Maybe then he wont throw a fit or anything... lol...

I really don't know what to say. If your mother would of backed you on what you said, it would be much easier. He didn't pass all of his classes, and that is the thing. If you go to the concert, make sure you enjoy it and don't think about your brother not being there.

Good luck with this one. If you go, have fun!!!

Hugs, Karen...

PS sorry if I made it more confusing...
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Inxthexskyxwithxdimonds
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   Posted 7/16/2012 11:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I wuld get him a ticket now if I had the money. It wuld come to buying him a ticket and having the gas to get there. Unfortunately they are the same price and the last of my money.

I wish my mother would stand behind me on this she's soft on him and my older sister but I'm always in the wrong no matter what I do. I was gana pawn my camera just so I could take him but unfortunately the shopp isn't open today. I just don't want to deal with the guilt. But at the same time I don't want to deprive myself what I want for other people cuz frankly I do it way to often. I always bend over backwards for the people I care about and when I do something for myself I'm automatically the bad guy. I'm tired of giving in but I don't really know what else to do.

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   Posted 7/16/2012 11:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Maybe this time you should, I think that the guilt is going to weigh on you and you wont enjoy it. You sound like a big softie... That isn't so bad. Let your little brother have fun. But from now on, I wouldn't go through it if your mother isn't going to back you... I am sorry that she didn't. It almost sounds like she undermined what you were doing. He needed to learn a lesson, but I wouldn't want to be the bad guy either.

Take care...

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Inxthexskyxwithxdimonds
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   Posted 7/16/2012 11:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Your right. I guess all I can do is hope they come around again. I'd probably make a road trip of I had to. It really bites though. I hate that I always have to be unhappy for the rest of my household to have happiness. Is this just what my life is always gana be like? I mean it brings me joy to make other people happy but at the same time it always takes its toll on me. I don't wana stop being who I am cuz like I said I love making people happy. But what is the point if all I ever get is poop in return? I'm almost to the point where I don't even believe in Karama anymore.

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   Posted 7/16/2012 1:31 PM (GMT -6)   
I believe in karma. And good things will come to you in time. You do get paid for being a good person, it just doesn't always happen right away.

Family is usually the first to take you for granted and take advantage of your good nature. It isn't like they do it on purpose, it just happens that way. We usually forgive family first. But don't let people take advantage of you. Stand up for what you believe to be right. If it is worth it.

Now your little brother didn't learn a lesson. But you had no backing on that. He really shouldn't of gotten to go. But in this situation, you did what was going to make you feel better and that was to give him the ticket anyway. I guess that would be an acception to the rule. But when (if) you have kids, when you tell them something, stick to it, or they will walk all over you.

It isn't so bad being a good hearted person and liking to make others happy. But you can't rely on the same people to make you happy. You have to do that for yourself. It does come back, but in different ways. Down the road, there will be somebody sacraficing something for you. It isn't necessarily the same person that you did good for. Besides, we don't keep score. It comes when you need it if you are lucky.

Stay the nice person that you are. Have a great day!!!

Hugs, Karen
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Inxthexskyxwithxdimonds
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   Posted 7/16/2012 1:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen. Im really glad I signed up on this forum. Usually I don't have anybody that I can talk to about everything. I've got a good thing going here.

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   Posted 7/16/2012 7:29 PM (GMT -6)   
go iron maiden!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

massive fan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! grew up on em too.

jamie
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   Posted 7/16/2012 7:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Glad that you are happy here. Keep posting...

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