I can imagine how you must feel. But remember that is just a feeling, try to seperate the facts. Write them down if you have to.
When you adopted your children out, it was the best thing at the time in your world, I am sure.
You can not control other peoples actions.
You CAN talk to your daughter now and minimize the hurt and pain, without judgeing the adoptive Mom.
Everyone has their own crap, we can not know what it is, but we can recognize it when it shows up. Do a work around with your daughter so she understands. If lines of communication are good with your daughter besure that there was no abuse going on. If suspected, then maybe some therapy is needed.
Kaely, remember, "do not punish the punished" we have already suffered enough. Put your energy and power into solutions! God Bless!
Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;