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ABBBY
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   Posted 7/24/2012 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
My son is in his 30's. His wife moved a boyfriend in while he was out of state trying to secure job (it fell through). They have 2 children. Last time this happened my son was committed on suicide watch and spent a week in an institution. He believes that this is the only woman for him and is inconsolable. He moved in with me & my BF (my husband passed 20 yrs ago). He isn't looking for work - walks around in tears (not usually a teary sort) and wonders why he even gets out of bed. I have offered to pay for counseling, to pay for a test he needs in order to become licensed in his chosen profession. I know i have to let him go through this, but fear he my become suicidal...I am generally a hands off mother. I let my kids know I am there for them but dont get into their business....I fear that he has mistaken this for me not caring.... What should I do?

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   Posted 7/24/2012 4:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Let him know that you care. But that he has to live his own life. You are helping him with the counseling and the tests. That is a lot. He has to get through this, but he does need counseling badly. There are some suicide sites in our thread called "resources" at the top of the page. Don't hesitate to contact somebody if you need to. We can't discuss suicide here because it could very well trigger somebody. So I can't go into it any further than this.

Welcome to the forum. I hope that things work out for you and your son. Know that we all care...

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/25/2012 2:23 AM (GMT -6)   
sending healing compassionate thoughts your way.

jamie.

ps your local mental health team is an excellent
support and resource for all concerned.
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER,

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REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

gardensparrow
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   Posted 7/27/2012 9:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh, I'm so sorry you're facing this with your son! I know you must be really scared about his safety, but it does sound like you're doing the best you can to help him. And, it's certainly hard to know where to draw the line in these sort of situations. :( But, after reading your post, I wondered if you could get any input from your son's counselor about how best to help him and be there for him. I know sometimes it's important to have some boundaries in place with adult children to make sure they learn to stand on their own. Of course, this situation is a bit unique with your concerns about suicide. So, that's why I'm wondering if a counselor's input would be your best bet. And, if you're not able to contact your son's therapist, I did want to mention that there are counselors you can talk to over the phone for free at Focus on the Family (1/855-771-HELP). I work there and I know they've handled situations like these-just FYI. Well, I will definitely be praying for you and your son. ((Hugs))!

getting by
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   Posted 7/27/2012 9:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Gardensparrow,

Welcome to the depression forum.

Hugs, Karen
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