Sexual molestation from husband's 16 year old son

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   Posted 8/1/2012 12:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi. I need some help. I was sexually molestated from my husband's 16 year old son. He has Aspberger's syndrome, which my husband uses as an excuse. His son molested me twice in one night and on another separate night within a 9 day period. I woke up with his hands fondelling my breasts, a flashlight strapped to his head, and him laughing. When I woke up every time he would scurry under the bed and race back to his bunk and pretend he was sleeping. His father believed he was sleepwalking and did not believe md at first. We were on a camping trip with my husband's family if 12, all sleeping under the same big tent in Africa. I have been blamed for the incidents in that his son had Aspergers and does not know what he is doing and I should not pick on him. His ex side and mother of the monster thinks I am over reacting. Nobody has ever apologized, taken ownership, and no punishment has ever been given. My MARRAIGE is barely holding on. We have gone to counselling bug I am so angry and everyone, especially my husband who says he is stuck between the loyalty to his son and me. I became suicidal, moved to the other side of the planet taking our 5 year old daughter with, to protect her, and we are struggling to see our way through this mess. I think I will only feel some satisfaction if his son were to die. I am not permitted to tell anyone what happened although I worry about what his son may do to other girls in south Africa as that is where he lives and we moved from.counselling does not remove this inner anger about not being heard and I fear our MARRAIGE ix going to end. We fight constantly about the issue and I wish I had the money and courage just to leave my husband. I feel like I am to bland for big kicking his son's ass when he was molesting me but we were surrounded by his family and I was in shock. My daughter and husband were sleeping right next to me when he decided to fondle my breasts and laugh. What can I do? This anger is festering.

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   Posted 8/1/2012 8:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Can you find another place to live for awhile? His son probably needs to be placed somewhere. It is hard to say how far he will take things. If he can't control this, what about sex? Would he rape somebody?

I am sorry that you are going through this. You might want to think of leaving your husband until he does something to stabililze his son. I really feel bad for you. You are in a strange situation. What does the counselor say about what is going on? Maybe you should find a new counselor...

I know you feel violated. That is only natural. I hope that you can find a way to feel safe in this situation. Keep us posted.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/1/2012 11:09 AM (GMT -6)   
You need to be honest in counseling and with yourself. It is only fair to you and to the boy. This can not be hidden for very long!

I wish you strength and peace for your journey, it is a tough one.
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