Cheating wife is Depressed

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Ryhar
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   Posted 8/7/2012 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Do I have a zinger for you all! My wife has been seeing another man for 7 months, with my knowledge, and is now depressed and cannot make a decision as to whether or not she wants to stay in the marriage. Some background to hopefully ward off some questions. The affair started as a result of us trying an open marriage to help spice things up....obviously it has backfired. I have pretty much decided to leave her at this point.

Now, she is depressed over what she has done, and continues to do, and has been prescribed Zoloft. With all of this, she has decided not to go on the Z. I cannot blame her. I was wondering are there any viable natural alternatives that have worked for anyone on this board?

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   Posted 8/7/2012 12:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Did she fall in love with somebody else? Or see him without you there? I don't understand why you are breaking up if you encouraged the encounter. Just curious. Please explain...

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry that it backfired.

I hope that the zoloft helps your wife. But it can take up to six to eight weeks to reach it's full potential. So tell her to be patient with it. I hope she gets better soon.

Hugs, Karen
 
PS  We have had people try 5htp, st johnswort, dephlin and others.  Hopefully more members will post with some alternatives for you.
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Ryhar
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   Posted 8/7/2012 1:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I did not encourage the encounter and I was not there. It started out as a Facebook exchange between the two and yes, she has fallen in love, apparently. I have told her many times that she should leave me if she is in love with him but she wont and it is driving me nuts so I am at my tipping point. She keeps telling me she is in love with me but for whatever reason cannot stop seeing him.

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   Posted 8/7/2012 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow, I thought that the both of you wanted to spruce up the marriage. I am sorry that this has happened.

I really hope things get better for you.

Take care and keep us posted.

Hugs, Karen
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/7/2012 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Ryhar,

Instead of focusing on the medications. Maybe couseling would be a nice thing for you and your wife to try. Perhaps it was not spices your marriage needed, but honest communication!?
Things that make you go hmmmmm...
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