Do things get better?

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NightWish
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   Posted 8/11/2012 4:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I feel like over the past few years, I've had to go through several difficult situations. Just when I'm trying to put one behind me, another one hits. I'm just curious to know others' opinions on if this is just life for some people? I always feel like I'm in a situation where I feel uncomfortable and it's really depressing me. I'm dealing with the fallout of the end of a relationship right now and it feels like I am never going to get through this.

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   Posted 8/11/2012 6:30 PM (GMT -6)   
hi nightwish.

you wil get thru this and heal. i am in therapy and this helps me immensly.
have you thought about seeing your doctor? there are many treatments
out there. remember to do things you enjoy, for me it is music and poetry.
other things that help are walking and getting some fresh air.

sending healing compassion 2 u,

jamie
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER,

RAPID CYCLING BI-POLAR DISORDER

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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   Posted 8/11/2012 7:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi NightWish,

Sorry for everything you going through. Things will eventually get better. Sometimes we have to go through difficult situations one after the other. However, things eventually get better afterwards. Just take it easy for now.
Maybe you can see a therapist who you can talk to and they will be able to help you. Also, as Jamie said, try to do things you enjoy. This works as a distraction and helps you to feel less depressed.

We are here for you. Hang in there.

Take Care

UA

Caro11
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   Posted 8/11/2012 7:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey NightWish,

Often it seems that when something goes wrong, every starts going wrong like a chain reaction. It's not that much the obtacles but the way we react to them. Stress, lack of sleep, poor appetite, sadness, anger and then depression creeps up on you...

I think like jamie, therapy is really helpful for dealing with all your problems. I'm in therapy and starting to get my life back together. Also, see family and friends for support. Sometime we don't want to bother others with our problems but the people close to us are there when we reach out.
Be strong! Things WILL get better!
Caroline

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   Posted 8/11/2012 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Nightwish,

Welcome to the depression forum. I see you have gotten some good advice. Your depression could very well be situational, meaning you might not need antidepressants. I would start with therapy. I think it would be good for you to go. And I agree with the rest, venture out and do some of the things you enjoy. Find your niche. I hope that you feel better soon. And yes, it does get better. And also it isn't the problem, but how we face it and handle it. Some things need solving and some don't. You will feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 8/12/2012 9:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Nightwish,

I would like to add, that it helps me to refocus my energy onto more positive things when I am able.

there are many negative influences in our daily lives and if we let them, they bring us down. I will list a few of the things that have helped me refocus.

Music; meditation; reading-"lovingkindness" ; mindfulness; quiet time spent in nature [a park will do] ; walking or any exercise

Also, a healthier diet is key to feeling better. Less sugars, salt and meat. More veggies, fruits and whole grains. Lots of water.

All of these things together can help make a brighter happier you. Focusing on you is key. Oh and one more thing, I barely watch TV anymore. Finding other interests is much more fun!

Stay strong!

Trina
Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

NightWish
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   Posted 8/12/2012 10:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone. Thank you so much for the advice. It gives me hope. I have to remember that things are always changing. Interesting isn't it, how change can be a scary thing, but then it can also be a good thing.

I'm seeing a counselor, but it feels like an hour/week isn't enough. But I have strong family support, so that's a good thing.

I have to keep asking myself, "what would I be doing right now if I knew everything was going to turn out OK eventually?" It's accepting and being OK with the fact that things feel bad right now, knowing that at some point, things will turn around. I'll try that for a while.

Thanks. Wishing good, positive change to all of you too.

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   Posted 8/13/2012 9:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Nightwish,

That is a wonderful game plan. When the depression is bad, some of us want to be at our therapists daily for hours if we only could!! It seems like "what can an hour a week possibly do for me?"

Well it can do a Heck of lot. We just have to try and focus for the hour we are there, and that hour goes fast when we are in a bad way. You will know when you are getting in a good place, you will run out of things to talk about with the therapist! :-)

Life is a rollercoaster ride with depression, we can ride it as an adventure or we can duct down and scream! I choose to face the adventure no matter how hard.

I have come this far in life, I am 51, so how much harder can it really get?

Stay strong; one day at a time NW.
Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;
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