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Raj007
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   Posted 8/16/2012 2:09 AM (GMT -6)   
friends,
i lost my job. . .
i have nothing to do right now.
though my family tries to comfort me but i think i am losing my mind daily.
i feel depressed and very much worried.
what should i do?
please suggest.

getting by
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   Posted 8/16/2012 5:32 AM (GMT -6)   
HI Raj007,

Finding another job would be the thing to do. Why did you lose the one that you had? Going to counseling would be another option. It does sound like you are depressed, and counselors can help with that. Keep posting too.

Hugs, Karen
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/16/2012 8:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Raj

There is always something to do.

Walk, read, garden, journal. Learn something new like "Mindfulness" or meditation or painting.

Finish a project you left undone.

Apply for new jobs, even if it is not what you really want right now, it is better than not working at all. When you apply for jobs while you are working you interview much better naturally.

Find a councelor is a wonderful idea and check in with your doctor about how you are feeling is another good idea. Depression is nothing to sneeze at. It is a serious desease and should be treated as such.

Stay strong and be proactive for yourself.
Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/16/2012 11:34 AM (GMT -6)   
JB, temp agencies, didn't think of that, wonderful idea!
Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

Raj007
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   Posted 8/17/2012 1:35 AM (GMT -6)   
1) Dear getting by/Karen,
being young & hot blooded, I did mistake by resigning from my earlier job.
It was fault of both me and my boss. There was some misunderstanding.
But whatever I should not had resigned.
Looking back I realize that I was foolish and made mistake.
I should had talked and taken advice from my near ones, which I didn't do.
Anyways, past is past. I can't change that.

2) Dear BnotAfraid and JB1,
Yes I am applying for jobs and trying to do things as you are suggesting.
Regarding temp agencies, such don't exist in my country.
But the problem is that I am not finding enough courage to do things as I used to do earlier with so much confidence.
Yes I'll try for meditation. That's one thing left maybe.

Friends as I stated earlier, I had wonderful career going. I also realize that there are many miserable souls out there who are in more awful situation than me.
But I also heard somewhere that "For every person, his/her misfortunes seem greatest in world".
Maybe that's happening to me too.

For me, my family is there. they are supporting me.
But again the problem is that though I discuss things with them, I don't want to discuss these things with them often.
it gives them pain to know that I am in pain. I can see it. So, I don't try to sound in pain infront of them.
But not discussing with them these things is also painful for me.
Thank you guys at least here I can discuss with you.
Hugs from Raj to all of you.

Post Edited (Raj007) : 8/17/2012 1:45:55 AM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 8/17/2012 2:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Raj,

The meditation will help you greatly. But have patience with it, it takes awhile to learn. Though practicing it is doing it, so you might get results sooner. I wish the best for you. I like your quote. It is true... Things can get overwhelming at times for us. But take life one day at a time, that really helps.

Hugs, Karen
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Raj007
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   Posted 8/19/2012 7:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear getting by,
Yes that's the plan for now.

Anyways it hurts when you see your peers moving forward and you find yourself in same place, still struggling for basic things.
Maybe time will heal all the pain.
It may sound I am being just jealous. But these are the things I feel right now.
It's maybe "Empty mind, Devil's workshop" kind of thing.

Anyways thank you friends. It feels nice talking to you all.

Hugs, Raj
Hugs from your friend Raj

getting by
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   Posted 8/19/2012 7:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Raj,

Keep trying, and take it one day at a time. Don't compare yourself to others. That only makes you envious or vain. There will always be greater and lesser people than yourself. I hope that things work out for you. Take care, keep posting...

Hugs, Karen
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/19/2012 7:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Raj,

We each have our own path in life.

I am 51 and have lost all the successes I had made. Does not negate the fact that I made them.

However, I go forward each day, it is a new day to start something new.
It was hard to get to this point. Prayer, meditation and mindfulness got me here. It took over a year to see a light, I was always in God's light; though sometimes I did not realize it.

If you have a faith, now is a good time to explore the deeper meanings of that faith.

Perhaps you can ride this storm and keep all your future successes.



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Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

Raj007
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   Posted 8/24/2012 10:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Friends,

This is Raj, still struggling to come in terms with life.
When i look back into my life I can only see the missed opportunities. All those opportunities which I could have grabbed but I didn't because of my ignorance.
I was too proud.
I didn't see look into the bigger picture.

And now I am clueless what to do next. I see my friends moving on with their life, achieving success one after another. It pains. This kind of situation really is killing me however hard I am trying to be happy.

Hugs, RAJ007
Hugs from your friend Raj

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/25/2012 7:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Raj,

don't try to happy. Concentrate on the NOW!. NO one can change their past. It is done and over with. We all have regrets, that is just life.

Life is not a race or a competition either. Try not to compare yourself to others! Find something you like to do and do it.

I have been out of work for over a year, so I picked up art as a hobby, the inexpensive way, but still art. It makes me feel better.

See what you can find, you will be amazed at the person you find inside of you!
Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

older guy
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   Posted 8/25/2012 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
hi raj, my name is Display.

i wanted to say something about family, and being able to open up to them about what is going on with you.

i have discovered, in my depression, that some people are able to hear about it and others aren't. what i did was try discussing it with individual friends and family. some were eager to listen and help. others were not - usually because it brought up fear in them.

so i had to learn to concentrate on the people who could listen and help.

i hope this helps you and you feel better.

thanks,
Display

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Raj007
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   Posted 9/5/2012 12:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Friends,
Thanks for all your support during my low times. At first I will update what I have been doing for last couple of days.
To remain busy and kill my depression I have enrolled in graduate study program. It seems like that it is working. When I am in university, atleast I don't feel depressed.
But the problem is that I don't seem to enjoy the whole process. But I have no alternative at this stage.
Should I keep searching for job & leave University once I get one?
On top of that, I am apprehensive about future. I even fear of my classmates.
This feeling is sickening. Any suggestions?

Hugs, Raj007
Hugs from your friend Raj

getting by
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   Posted 9/5/2012 7:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Keep on with what you are doing. One day at a time. Don't let it overwhelm you thinking about work. If you can go to school, do that for now. Take a job if it comes. One thing at a time...

Hugs, Karen...
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Raj007
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   Posted 9/12/2012 4:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks friends for your words of encouragement.
I know I can't be in this state forever.
To achieve mental calmness I am trying meditation and hanging with people. Though it's not working miracles, it still is helping.
Any more suggestions friends?

Hugs, Raj007
Hugs from your friend Raj

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   Posted 9/12/2012 5:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Staying in the moment and taking life one day at a time. Meditation helps a lot...

Hugs, Karen
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