Welcome to the forum Hertzangel!
Have you spoken to your spouse about his depression and suggested seeing a doctor, even the family doctor regarding it?
Also, I agree with Karen, don't assume anything, communicate gently and in non-violent ways with your spouse that you are there for him and ask what it is that he needs. He most likely will not be able to tell you, this is a symptom of depression, confusion. He will know you care though.
Remember depression is an illness and needs to be treated as one, you have started to educate yourself, try to educate your spouse and get him the help he needs.
Stay Strong and keep posting here, it is a good outlet for you and people do care!
Be still and know there is Peace.
Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;