the first thing I think you should do is figure out what it is that you are afraid of.
Yes, you are afraid of something and it is more than hurting his feelings. I have a history of abuse in my family and your first post made my stomach flip! I can feel your tension. So my advice is if the move is about your safety, don't tell him anything, just move.
If there is no "problem", then just sit him down face to face and tell him, with your "big girl panties on". You can never go wrong with 100% honesty in non-violent, gentle communication. Sure he may be hurt, but the truth hurts sometimes, better then lieing.
I would have a place picked out and ready to put a deposit down on maybe if you feel you need this security of a place to run to. You can tell him anytime though, just stand firm in your decision.
So Turningpoint, it is your play, you have to figure out what ball game you are playing and what the next move will be. Just make sure your being honest with yourself and the boyfriend.
Be still and know there is Peace.
Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;