32 years ago my mother died. My (now 66 year old) father and mother loved each other so much that when she died, he has never been the same. He never remarried though he did date on occasion. He also turned to alcohol to bury his pain. He is now retired and living with my grandmother (his mother).
After he retired he has gone downhill fast. I think he is depressed but I don't know how to help him. He is a very stubborn man! He still drinks but now he no longer cares for his oral hygiene. He smells so bad that it's hard to be near him, he wears pants that are shiny with dirt and has holes in them, he wears holey shirts as well, his hair is so unkempt that he has mats in his hair, his beard is down to his chest. He lays in his bed almost all day and only ventures out to use the restroom, occasionally to go to the store or to eat. He's also a hoarder, in his room only. When he goes to the store, he literally spends $2,000 on lottery tickets.
He has some health issues including back pain - which I think he would benefit from physical therapy because lying down all the time has withered his muscles, but he ignores me when I suggest it. He also has atrial fibrillation and takes medication for it.
I have two older brothers but they are not much help and I feel like this has been landed on my shoulders alone. I want to help my dad but I don't see how! Does anyone have advice for me?
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