Posted 5/24/2005 8:15 PM (GMT -7)
Please forgive spelling or type-o's
I do. I really feel like a failure as a mother and as a wife. I have been depressed for a few days. I am dependent upon my husband for everything even though he doesn't complain and as for a mother, after 3 months, my daughter of 32 yrs old is still not speaking to me cause she got her knickers in a wad and didn't, as my husband says, "MIND HER OWN BUSINESS"! HE TELLS ME THAT, HE TELLS EVERYONE THAT. iF IT AIN'T YOUR CONCERN, BUTT OUT.
Problem, he's right. She stuck her nose into her sisters and my tiff and now I am speaking to her sister and not her. I miss my 3 grandchildren talking to them on the phone, I even miss her. She has issues and I fear she will go into a tailspin. My 8 yr old grandson has ADD, ADHD, Developementally delayed, Autism and God knows what else. He is always in trouble and always getting yelled at. Two trips to Fl ago, she called me and I heard him screaming in the background. He was chasing her with a knife telling her he hated her. It took me 5 minutes to get there and when I did I was able to calm him down. He is very violent. I worry about my other grandchildren, Katie is almost 4 and Connor just turned 1. I asked her why she had the knives out where Jordan could get them. She has to lock the fridge, all the cabinets, doors to the outside and garage with locks up high and I am scared to death for all of them. It's not his fault but I really believe that if she spent more time with him, he could be a bit more productive. He really listens to me, even on the phone. I have a hard time understanding him and I tell him to slow down or I can't talk to him. He listens and when he starts up fast again, I tell him the same thing. I have figured out that no matter how old your kids are, you still love them, care for them, worry about them and feel some sense of responsibility for them.
She had a very bad relationship with a navy guy before she went into the Army. She was with him for a long time, about 2-3 years. When he wasn't in the gulf war, he was really abusive to her.
She was scared to death and never told me until I found out and called his CO and got him tossed in the brigg. I didn't care either. We protect our kids however we have to and now she hates me. She told my other daughter that she ain't sending me any more pictures of the kids. My other daughter told me she would be sure she sent them to me. I feel like I have failed her. I pray for the Lord to take this problem and fix it, and I am waiting but I can't take it back. When I give Him a problem I try hard not to take it back. Please pray for her and me. Thanks for listening. As always, I love you all!
Post Edited By Moderator (Admin) : 5/28/2005 12:10:11 PM (GMT-6)