Hey FFwife. I'm sorry that you're going through this and that your husband is suffering from an anxiety disorder. I am suggesting he talk to his doctor or look into something at work where he can be referred to a therapist who specializes in anxiety disorder. Cognitive behaviour
Therapy. This therapy will help him, can be done with or without medication.
In his field, it may be embarressing for him - I know many firefighters and have spent time at firehalls from being in the Media. I know that what they go through at times is awful and very very stressful. Most Fire Departments have an EAP program, I do hope he looks into this - It will only help him.
The meds he's on are giving him side effects I guess? Unless he's willing to DO something about
his problem that is how it will stay...A Problem. I am sure he loves you so much, but isn't feeling like himself, feels like he is letting everybody down. This disorder warps the mind and makes you feel out of control.
I don't know how much you know about
anxiety - But you just being supportive and understanding will help him greatly. Being sympathic to how he feels - He will need reassurance that it's okay - Nothing bad is going to happen and that anxiety is controllable, even if right now he may feel it isn't. This is where the CBT comes in handy...Learning how to cope and fight this awful feeling he has.
Hope this helps, please keep posting and maybe if you can, show him this site and see if he'll post as well. If he doesn't feel comfy posting here since you're on here as well, I know some other pretty wonderful sites he can join. Talking about
it and finding support is very helpful. Everybody on here is going through similar things and really understand all that he is going through.
Don't give up on him - It's just so down and doesn't know wtf to do now - Probably has no intention of leaving you but figures he is letting you and your daughter down - Maybe leaving is the best because he doesn't want you to be concerned about
him. Men are funny that way and prefer to work things out on their own and NOT ask for help. The thing is, if he doesn't get help soon this stupid anxiety WILL take over his life...It will be harder for him to climb out of the tunnel and make the rollercoaster ride worse. HE can do this!