Having been a smoker and an alcoholic(still am but don't drink)... I read what you wrote about
him quitting EVERYTHING AT ONCE....very bad, bad, idea. When I quit smoking 16 years ago, it made my crazy!.. I got paranoid.. I was angry, I was irritable, I didn't want to do anything except be in a mini rage in my mind.. Back then they didn't have Zban and Wellbutrin.. after a week of going nuts.. I got over it and havent' smoked since... having quit alcohol and been in treatment centers more than Lindsy Lohan(i got her beat!.. :).. There is something called PAWS.. it's Post Accute Withdrawl Syndrome. It basically is all the after effects that happen to you when you give up heavy drinking.. they are real and include depression, anger, etc.. Search it on the internet..I'm sure there is plenty on there about
it. There is also a med called NALTREXONE that reduces the cravings for alcohol.. It works.. I was on it... it also gave me a very "calming" feeling...just like a SSRI med..
Anyway.. quiting everything now approach is setting him up for failure.. He finally got you back and now he says 'no'?.. I think it's heavy withdrawl talking. He need to quit ONE thing at a time.. I understand he wants drastically to improve..but it's too much for the mind to cope with all in one battle. I quit drinking recently and am doing ok.. 16 years after I quit smoking.. I should have done it the other way around but oh well... So please.. text him(maybe) and let him know there are very real mental effects to as what he is trying to do... My advice having done it.. quit drinking 1st.. it will ruin your life faster than smoking a cig.. then down the road... try quiting cigarettes... good luck.
Post Edited (Joneb2) : 6/20/2013 3:38:29 PM (GMT-6)