I've him Monday after school, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday till after 6pm. And Sunday morning 9 - 12 (this one is a new arrangement).
I felt there's no good role model in her house. Her brothers both in their 30s still stay in the family home, so does she and her sister. One of the brother is still at college doing undergrad, the other one does nothing but play computer games all day. Her sister works though. The girls are better influence for him, but there's no good make role model for him in that household.
Her mother is going through a bitter divorce, but my son is shielded from that. He's sleep in the same bed with her everytime he visits (which is not good for his development). She complains about
whatever I do for him, giving him a proper life, setting up playdates for him, taking him to after school activities, like soccer, netball, skating lessons and on sunday, we do fun stuff like zoo, bowling, am planning to take him to the beach in the school holidays. And yet, she's critical about
what I do. And because, I'm the enforcer, my son, thinks it's better to be at mum's. Where everyday is iPad, TV and nintendo DS console. Doesn't need to do home work, etc.
I'm on the verge of giving up and just leave. I know if I do that, my son will grow up without a father; at the same time, I don't think I've been fairly recognised for all the work I put in. The worst thing is, I'm getting paid slight more than she is while still taking care of him more than she does, she's now claiming child support from me. And child support doesn't care that I'm sick and have medical bills up my nose. My anti depressant is $50 a week. My pain meds, is $20 a week. Doctors is like $200 a fortnight. Where on earth am I going to find extra money to pay her to stay at her mum's house.
This is seriously unfair. The stress of explaining it to the child support is getting to me, they gave me forms after forms to fill in, and say it's going to take 3 - 5 months to get reassess. In the mean time, I've been screwed over. MY happiness been taken away. I've been given extra stress. I've had enough of all this.
Post Edited (clarie) : 6/26/2013 12:54:23 PM (GMT-6)