I went thru a period 15 to 18-years ago - where my Step-Father (who raised me) passed 18-years ago, then my closest Uncle (and God-Father) 17-years ago, then my Aunt (closest living) 16-years ago, then my dear Sir Charles (65-pound poodle) that same year, and then my natural Father (who I was pretty close with) 15-years ago.
When my Step-Father passed, my little business was having a bad year, and my ex-wife was giving me fits with my kids (not child-support related). It was the first time I sought a Psychologist. I found it was one of the best decisions I had ever made in my life. One of my biggest problems was NOT living my daily life. I was always into the future ... actually, I think my whole life!
For a rocky relationship I was in for 7-years, about 6-years ago, I went to see another counselor - or I should say we went to! The counselor was not so good ... and my partner really didn't buy into going to a counselor, so that had no chance. And then recently, I have been to a Psychologist who specializes in dealing with terminal diseases.
I saw him twice last year. I need to see him again at least once or twice soon. BUT .... there is a difference. I don't know why, maybe a near death experience with a 911 call in January of 2011 ... but, I live ... and it's day by day. I plan very little for the future - partly because my business was shut-down in February of 2011, and mostly because I am cherishing the very smallest things in life.
I really feel good when the sun is shining. A light gentle rain is OK too. One of my most memorable experiences in the past few months was when driving with my dog (we do this daily) - I had to come to a stop because there was a mother Mallard Duck walking across the road with (had to be) about 10-little tiny ducklings behind her - walking in file. It was beautiful ... not the least bit earth-shattering ... it would never be on the news - but it was one of the shear beauties of life.
Bottom line ... I don't want to miss these little things in life - that we usually take for granted. Life is too precious to not focus on it daily - and in a positive way, if at all possible. Grieving is necessary ... when it's needed - but not a life of grieving!
I have an advanced stage of Prostate Cancer myself, and I find myself hopelessly crying with some movies - including happy crying. I am on medications that physically promote emotions ... and ... that's what it is! I've rambled a little here, but try to focus on some of the simpler things in life - and of course, a GOOD psychologist can help you work wonders.
Best to you