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corey maragni
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   Posted 8/5/2013 4:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello, I have very low self esteem and I feel I am ugly and I feel other people think i'm ugly too. please take a look at my pic and please tell me what I would be concidered as, ugly? ok looking? handsome (dout it!)  please help I need honest answers please?VIEW IMAGE

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   Posted 8/5/2013 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't think you are ugly at all. But, you shouldn't put stock into appearances. It is what a person is like that counts, not how they look. I hope you can see that. Don't worry about things like that. Just worry about being a good person.

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corey maragni
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   Posted 8/5/2013 8:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you very much you actually made me feel so much better. oh thank you!! blush

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   Posted 8/6/2013 3:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Corey, you are not ugly. Sounds like you could use some Self-compassion.
there are a few good books out on the subject, I suggest you get on and read.

Karen is right, inside in much more important that the cover. Look at all the people that make themselves ugly with piercings and tattoos, than other folks find them beautiful. Eye of the beholder baby!

Stop worrying and start enjoying a happy life.
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   Posted 8/6/2013 5:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Abner007!
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Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

Gizzy'n me
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   Posted 8/6/2013 7:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Say Corey ...
 
   I purposely did not look at your photo - cause somethings are much more important. What kind of a person are you? ........ How do you treat other people? ......... Are you honest? ......... Do you respect the feelings of others?
   Those are just a few of them!
 
   There are lots of things we can go thru that can temporarily or permanantly make us less appealing to look at by others - physically. I was just in the Doctors office yesterday, and asked him about all these ugly marks on my arms. I know they're from the prednisdone I've been on for some time, along with other meds, and since another doctor ordered me off the prednisone two weeks ago - I thought, thank God, these bruises and scabs will finally go away.
   As I figured, it will take some time. For much of the Summer, I would wear a long-sleeve shirt just to hide these ugly marks. I guess, vanity can get a grip on almost anyone ... but as I'm sure you've heard many times before ... "it's the beauty inside that counts".
 
P.S. ....... and I'm not saying that cause I looked at your picture. I'm saying that cause I just looked at my right arm.
 
P.P.S. ....... hey ... laugh ... that was supposed to be funny!
 
Be rich ... and find peace within yourself! Others will notice!

bayoub2
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   Posted 8/6/2013 9:41 AM (GMT -7)   
You are a nice looking young man with beautiful eyes and a genuine smile. But remember, that is just one small piece of what we are.

When you get to be my age (60) you'll feel like "this is who I am and it really doesn't matter if some stranger likes it or not"...you become comfortable in your own skin and really, you can have thart =at any age

good luck to you-we are always here

Mags
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corey maragni
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   Posted 8/6/2013 8:20 PM (GMT -7)   
bayoub2 said...
You are a nice looking young man with beautiful eyes and a genuine smile. But remember, that is just one small piece of what we are.

When you get to be my age (60) you'll feel like "this is who I am and it really doesn't matter if some stranger likes it or not"...you become comfortable in your own skin and really, you can have thart =at any age

good luck to you-we are always here

Mags
Thank you so much..oh wow you all have changed me, I feel wonderful, if there is anything I could do for any of you please tell me. I will be here to help.

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   Posted 8/7/2013 2:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Corey,

How are you doing otherwise? Is your depression bad? We can try to help you with that too if it is.

I hope things are going well for you.

Have a good day...

Hugs, Karen
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corey maragni
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   Posted 8/9/2013 3:04 AM (GMT -7)   
hello Karen. thank you very much.i'm feeling better. it's just that I have such low self esteem I always feel everyone is way better than I am and more perfect then I will ever be.. before I came here i went to yahoo answers and asked for some opinions they some said that i am extremely ugly and some even said that that such ugliness should not even be alive on this planet and a few told me that I would be much better off dead and that i am barf bag material, so they made me feel so bad that I was going to end my life,.the only thing that stopped me was I thought of my parents and I can't do this to them because they need me to take care of them as they are getting older so..if I didn't have that worry about that.. I would of been dead already a long time ago. I want to thank you all so very much..but I know in my heart that I am nothing great and never will be. but I really do appreciate the nice compliments, but I know deep down they are nothing more then random compliments..but thank you all. something that I wanted more than anything was to be in love with a special lady but most woman think i'm not attractive at all. and I don't go for looks I go for what is inside a person not the outside shell.. but most woman go for looks. I used to be 389 lbs and I lost all that weight hoping a girl would notice me and still I failed! women still think I am the most ugly man to ever walk on earth.. I guess women don't want a nice guy that would be true to them and love them forever..it's all about looks.. so my future will be a cold lonely one forever without any real happiness..

Post Edited (corey maragni) : 8/9/2013 4:17:08 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 8/9/2013 3:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Again, you aren't ugly. I think you put yourself out there and some very unkind, uncaring people said that just to upset you. Realize that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, different people are attracted to different looks. The thing is that some people are so shallow, they don't notice what is inside a person, and that is what matters. You can't let other people's opinions dictate your life. Forget the looks. You are observing so close, and no one is perfect. You are seeing things in yourself that other people can't even see. And that isn't good. Get away from the mirror.

You are young. You will find a good lady in time. When the tme is right and the right one comes along. If you want a nice person, look where nice people go. Also don't keep looking so hard, let it happen.

You are getting random compliments from random people, but I don't think anybody here would steer you wrong. Most of the people on this forum are good people. They genuinely care.

Take your life, one day at a time. Find some interests that you like and do them. Your special woman will be there when it is the right time for you.

Hang in there and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 8/9/2013 3:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow Corey,

you must tell me your secret for be able to see into the future like that!

the difference between this site and Yahoo is that we are honest and Yahoo, most people were making fun of you, because in their eyes it was a silly question you asked. [ask a stupied question, get a...] You see what I am saying?

I would say that working you your happiness is primary and the love of you life will come along in time. We cannot love anyone fully, until we love ourselves first.

I strongly suggest you read one or both of these books they are great guides and inspirations to letting yourself be loved.

Letting go of the Person I used to Be: By Lama Surya Das

The Mindful Path to Self-compassion by Christopher K. Germer, PhD

Peace
Trina
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Be still and know there is Peace.

Kabir says: "Student tell me, what is God? He is the breath inside the breath". from the poem Breath.
DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

corey maragni
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   Posted 8/9/2013 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
getting by said...
Again, you aren't ugly. I think you put yourself out there and some very unkind, uncaring people said that just to upset you. Realize that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, different people are attracted to different looks. The thing is that some people are so shallow, they don't notice what is inside a person, and that is what matters. You can't let other people's opinions dictate your life. Forget the looks. You are observing so close, and no one is perfect. You are seeing things in yourself that other people can't even see. And that isn't good. Get away from the mirror.

You are young. You will find a good lady in time. When the tme is right and the right one comes along. If you want a nice person, look where nice people go. Also don't keep looking so hard, let it happen.

You are getting random compliments from random people, but I don't think anybody here would steer you wrong. Most of the people on this forum are good people. They genuinely care.

Take your life, one day at a time. Find some interests that you like and do them. Your special woman will be there when it is the right time for you.

Hang in there and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
Thank you Karen. I will take what you said and i will keep telling myself this. thank you so much. and thank you all.

coldbreeze29
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   Posted 4/14/2016 5:43 AM (GMT -7)   
hi im frances arianne.
i just want you to know corey that you are not ugly. you have the most beautiful heart that I've ever felt.
people will notice everything about us and i had experience that before even until now.. im not perfect, i dont have the perfect body like any girls out there. im not smart like the others but u made me feel that im special and i love you for who you are. i never had doubts when i met you. and as days goes by, you made me believe that there will be perfect for me. and that was you. i dont care what otehr people say. i love you and i miss you.. please dont think that im like the other girls youve met. we promised to each other that we will be together forever no matter what. right? im always here for you. i always say that im going to let you go but i cant. i miss you. it hurts.

coldbreeze29
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   Posted 4/14/2016 5:47 AM (GMT -7)   
always remember that no one is perfect. you just have to accept everything to be happy. im proud of what you become. that you pass all the problems in life and dont let other people put you down. im always here and your family and friends that really loves you. always remember that. and God will always there for us. i miss you corey.. hope you are okay.

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   Posted 4/14/2016 6:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Coldbreeze29,

I hope that Corey sees your post if it is meant to be. As you can see, this thread is three years old.

I hope you find happiness today.

Hugs, Karen...
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MillieMillerOlly
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   Posted 4/20/2016 3:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey umm i looked at your photo


And you are not ugly!! Man

Look at the positives in life
Life is too short to look at negatives

Jenny E
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   Posted 7/24/2017 2:51 PM (GMT -7)   
hello i have some bad news Corey committed suicide in 2014 his brother let me know i was a close friend of Corey

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   Posted 7/24/2017 3:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend, Jenny.

Death is hard on the living. Death by one's own hand especially so.

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   Posted 7/25/2017 12:56 AM (GMT -7)   
So sorry to hear this. Thanks for letting us know. I liked Corey. He was nice...

I hope you are doing okay Jenny...

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   Posted 7/25/2017 7:09 PM (GMT -7)   
many healing thoughts.

Jenny E
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   Posted 7/26/2017 12:55 PM (GMT -7)   
i am sad he was the one that got away sad

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   Posted 7/27/2017 2:52 AM (GMT -7)   
So sorry to hear this. I am sure you have many good memories. Hang on to them.

You sound like a very nice person. I hope you are doing well.

Hugs, Karen....
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Jenny E
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   Posted 7/30/2017 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   
we were online friends but yes i do have good memories i still hold on to he was my first love

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   Posted 7/30/2017 6:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I think our online friends are so special... It is so sad when we lose somebody, especially to depression or suicide I would say. I hope you are coping okay. I am glad you have good memories to hang on to. I am so sorry for your loss.

Keep hanging in there Jenny.

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