May lose my job and need help and advise

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   Posted 7/9/2005 9:50 AM (GMT -6)   
I am pretty depressed and very worried about my job.  I am really scared that I am going to lose it.   Actually the job has been on the line off and on.  I have diagnosed with ADHD.  When I went on probation I was given a form to be filled out regarding accommodations by my therapist.  She does not deal much with ADHD (I am also seeing her for depression and anxiety) so she sent me to another t who deals mainly with ADHD.  He was not on my insurance so I had to meet a deductible and then pay 20% of what was left over.  So that was a fair amount of money.  I had to see him 3x and that included testing.  Well, I have been working my tail off to keep that job.  While on probation I have to meet with my supervisor weekly.  She is pretty much on my case about everything.  Most of what she complains about are things that all of my friends cant believe.  I have even been told that most of the things would not even be issues in their jobs.  Alot of what she complains about she cannot even prove.  Just for one example.  I have to file mail back in files.  When I do this I double and triple check the # on the mail to the file, the name of the insured on the mail to the name in the file and to which policy type it is so it gets in the correct folder.  She says the mail is not getting to where it is suppose to be.  I know that is not true..  I got jumped because I had a copy job to do and when I went to staple the packets, on a few the staples did not go all the way thru so I took them out and restapled.  The person I did this for complained and my super agreeded with her.  They said we could lose a large account because it did not look professional...come on, how stupid do they think I am?  The people who get the packest are very unlikely to notice 2 tiny staple holes.   Anyway I have been doing ok lately.  Well, the Friday before the 4th I switched my hours to cover the switchboard.  It was just by 30 minutes.  Well, everything went fine.  Well, supposedly, without even realizing it she said I closed down the switchboard 30 minutes early and went home.  When she asked me Wed. what time I left on Fri. I told her 3:15.  She said she supposedly has proof that I entered the office with my key card at 2:45 which is my normal leaving time.  I have never done anything like that before, nor would I ever even consider it.  I did not even know I did it.  I don't know if I spaced and looked at the clock and saw it was 2:45 which is the time I go home so closed things down and left.  If I did do it, it was an extremely freaky thing.  Well she said that she has sent the paperwork up to our Home Office and it is now in their hands to decide what to do, if anything.  Personally I am not convinced I even did it.  She has not shown me any proof.  Well, if I lose this job over this it will kill me.  I have invested too much hard work and money to keep this job.  The probation is over on July 27th.  Then there is the worry that this incident could keep me from collecting unemployment.  If that would be the case, I could not get cobra and would have no health insurance and would have to go off all my meds  and I am afraid of what that could do to me.  I think my supervisor would go and fight to keep me from collecting unemployment.  I have read that you can collect unemployment you have to be let go for a good reason.  Do you think this would be a good reason?  Would you consider what I supposedly did as misconduct?  I am just so upset and depressed over the whole thing.

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   Posted 7/9/2005 2:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Chesi,

I don't know much about unemployment (varies from state to state too . . . so consider that when you recieve advice online). But most larger companies try to let people go with a basic 'parachute'. They will likely recognize and honor an unemployment claim and may even give you a pay check for a couple weeks. Sometimes their motive is to have you sign a contrct that you will accept those terms and agree NOT to file a wrongful termination suit. So, really it is financially in their best interest to be kind when they let an employee go. They may also be making an example of you. Sorry . . . that stinks. Those do sound like petty grievances too.

Keep us posted sis!! We are pulling for you!!


PS: When you file papers, can you privately put a penciled check mark or initials or date on the back side of the first page of the stuff being filed, so you will know if it was someone else or you? Just a thought.

When your staple doesn't go through the whole packet (urgh . . . I hate that), recopy the first page only so that the double staple mark doesn't show.
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   Posted 7/10/2005 9:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry you are having a hard time at work. Sometimes bosses and or supervisors love throwing their weight around. You should, in a nice way, ask her if she knows about clinical depression. If she doesn't, then you should explain to her that you do much better when people are off your case. Be open and up front but coy. You have to let her think that she is the "high and mighty" and you are broaching her for advice and someone to listen. If she don't feel like crap when you leave, then she is hard hearted if she has one at all!
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   Posted 7/10/2005 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the good advice.  I had not even thought about just recopying the top page if I have to remove the staple.  I have thought about marking my initials on the mail I file.  I dont know how that would go over, but now, as part of the accommodations the policy # is highlighted and if it isnt then I will high lite it so it pretty much says it is my work.
When I told my supervisor about the ADHD, I also told her about having depression.  She says she has it also.
The hard part now is the waiting to see what, if anything Home Office is going to do.  I have no idea how long it is going to take them to decide.  If she sent up the paperwork on Wed. I would have thought they would get it on Fri. but if it were Thur. then they might not even have it.  I have no idea what she means by paperwork.  Is it via email or did she fax it up or send it up thru snail mail.  I have no idea what the paper work consisted of...did it simply tell them what happened?  Is she asking to let me go? She did not say.  I am on probation until the 27th.  I wonder if they are going to let that play out to see how I do.  It is not like I dont have enough anxiety going on in the first place.
Back to the suggestion of talking to her about depression, I also have ADHD.  I sent her an email a couple of weeks ago and in there I told her I could bring her some material on ADHD but she never responded.

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   Posted 7/10/2005 12:53 PM (GMT -6)   


That is a very good idea but I have already tried that several years ago when I was in trouble.  The person I spoke to knew about the problems but not the ADHD til I told her.  It did not matter.  She stood behind my supervisor 1000%.  When I was talking to her on the phone (our Home Office is in another state, we are just a branch office) I told her I was doing my best.  She then said that doing my best may not be good enough.  What kind of answer is that?  My supervisors boss is in yet another state.  She was down the end of June and met with me and my supervisor.  She did not come down for that at all, it just happened our weekly meeting happened to fall on the same day she came down.   I am just so scared that if I do lose my job for this incident that I supposedly did, that the co. will fight so that I do not get unemployment.  I could not live.  Plus if I cannot afford to pay for COBRA I would lose my health insurance.  That would mean stopping all my meds.  I don't know what that could do to me.

What is the story on your job if you dont mind me asking.

Thanks again for the great advise




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   Posted 7/11/2005 7:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hope it all turns out well for you. I know what struggle this has all been for you. You know how to find me.
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