I am so sorry to hear about your troubles with your son. I have a grandson who is 8 and has ADD, ADHD, Autism, Developmentally delayed and bi-polar. (so these crackpot Dr's say.) When I was a kid growing up, baby boomer, if we behaved badly, we were called brats and got sent to bed without supper or took a tail whipping from daddy's belt or were grounded, depending on the seriousness of the issue. All of a sudden, a generation comes along where they say these kids are "very disturbed". WHY???? What happened between 1950 to 1985? That's when all this started. Personally, I have wittnessed a parent screaming at their kids in the store and saying terrible things to them. Personally, I think it's a breakdown in the home and lack of supervision. I will probably get jumpped for this, but even though it can't be helped, when children don't live with and grow up with both their mom and dad, that's when the trouble begins. I can speak from first hand. Each child deserves a fighting chance to have a normal, productive life and if the parents don't see that, they are only fooling themselves. Case in point. Parents have a few kids. The split. They go with daddy every other weekend. Now the mom is free 2 weekends a month and so is dad. What do you think they want to do on those weekend nights? They are searching for love in all the wrong laces. This is a time for throw away mom's and throw away dad's and the kids suffer. Mine did but they had very strict discipline. They were 9 and 11 when I got a divorce and married a year later. They didn't like that, however, we carried on same as usual. Their father loved to touture me using them. He would call and say he was coming to get them and never show up or when I would call him for my child support (wow, $60 a week for 2 kids), he told me if I wanted it, come and get it. I then told my attorney to put it to the courts.
The point I am trying to make is without any information about you or your son, his age, what the main issue is, we can't even advise you. We can support you and pray for you. Sounds to me like yu really need some help and fast. Don't let this go on much longer. It's not good for the both of you. God bless!